At what age or stage of life do you want or expect your children to leave home? My sisters boys still at home in their 20’s. I want mine independent by then. What are your thoughts.


Posted anonymously, 16th December 2015


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  • When they were little, I used to dream of a child free home. Then they actually moved out and I wanted them back home ????



  • I think some are more ready than others. We all wish we can stay home for as long as we can! If they have jobs and are earning their way to still live at home then it should’t be too much of an issue, if they aren’t working and just slacking around then I believe it becomes a problem then.



  • Whenever they’re ready to leave home is soon enough fir me. It’s a hard world out there, I don’t want to push them



  • I’m happy for my daughter to live at home for as long as she needs, as long as she’s working towards her own future and helps out around the house.



  • I would love to follow my Brazilian culture where the “kids” only leave their parents house when they get married.



  • I think it depends on their personalities and motivation. I’d love my kids to be around as long as possible but that might not necessarily be the best thing for them. I’d hope they’d be motivated to take a risk, live with some friends and learn about life. Door’s always open if they need to come home.



  • I loved having my kids at home as long as they wanted. To us there were many pluses but few negatives. Would welcome them home any time including with their families as has happened in the past.



  • i would love to have them home as long as they want to be. i think that they can be saving money, buying a car, etc to be able to get ready. i think that working or careers will be hard enough so i would love to be able to give them a good boost for life. i moved out of home young and it was hard. i had no washing machine etc. all i had was a mattress for the floor and a little bar fridge (that i paid for). S o i want my kids to have all they need so they don’t have to struggle like i did, trying to make ends meet and getting trained up with a very small income



  • They leave home and you think they are independent then relationships break up, share houses dissolve and “voila” they are back with assorted furniture! This generation seem to find it hard to really stand on their own two feet and we seem to be enabling this behaviour.



  • I’d be happy for my daughter to stay at home as long as she’s contributing both financially and with chores.



  • I think everyone is different. If the child isn’t financially stable or independant enough I wouldn’t force them to leave. I’d be happy with them staying until they want to.



  • Whenever they are ready.
    Its mine and their dads job to ensure that they are ready and capable before that time comes.
    I believe they need to be independent before leaving home to avoid culture shock. If my kids aren’t capable of being independent by the time they get their license, thats my failure.

    However every situation is different



  • I think that if they’re contributing to the household (ie not still expecting to be cared for like little kids), I could have my kids at home forever.



  • My parents kind of moved when i was 21 the options were to be independant in a unit in town or be in the country and live in a caravan. I choose to be independant although they did buy me a second hand fridge and washing machine to get me started, as i had everything else to set up a unit in my glory box, which i started at sixteen. But my brother who is 45 keeps getting to move back in every chance given to him( due to mental illness issues and having to have a keeper when he is down). My parents made me pay board from the time i had my first job they taught me nothing is free in life, bills need to be paid.( it was a quater of whatever my wage was that week) They enouraged me to get a part time job at 15 . Once i did they lost out on family benifits/ austudy etc… So i had to give them something in return…
    Even when becoming unemployed and then on a traineeship for just over a year i didnt go home. I believe this was due to the vaules they gave me. They did help out in little ways buy buying a special job interview outfits etc…..but i did it. I think if they are babbied through the later teen years it makes it too hard to leave… Why bother when mum does everyting for me.



  • My daughter is 19 and simply even if she or I wanted her to leave, it is generally impossible as she would not even afford rent. So this depends on a whole lot of factors and if you are happy as a family together and it is best if everyone contributes financially to make it fair . Good communication with your “adult ” children is the best way to have a harmonious household. Hopefully you do have one …


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