“I need help my nearly 19month old is driving me insane. I’m very patient with her but every meal she throws her food all over the ground and it drives me literally up the wall. I’ve tried ignoring it (as she loves a reaction), I’ve tried a tap on the hand, I’ve tried turning her to the wall or putting her in a room away from us, telling her no. I don’t know what else to do. I know it may be a phase but how do I teach her it’s not on! I don’t want this happening when she is 4! Any tips would help! ”

Posted by anon, 25/05/2013

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  • Get her to help you make it or plate it up… then she has “made” her dinner and may approach mealtime in a different light.



  • I hope you found out the answer



  • Actually, now I’m a little confused as to whether shes throwing up her food, or just throwing it onto the ground. The title says ‘throwing up’ but in the question it says shes throwing it onto the ground.



  • I’d say as soon as she throws the first handful/ spoonful, a stern ‘no’ and take the food away from her, put it in the fridge, and put her in time out. Wait a little while and offer the food again. If she throws it, take it off her again and put her in time out. You’ll probably have to put up with a few tantrums before you break the habit. You have to be firm and persistent



  • I would say that this is just a stage that she will grow out of… As you have said she loves a reaction and even if you don’t mean to i’d guess that you probably pull a face when she does this. Perhaps if you are feeding her in the kitchen area, you could busy yourself with a task nearby (Obviously sneaking glances to ensure she is ok) and try not to pay too much attention to her whilst she is eating. Once she realises that she no longer has an audience perhaps she will just get on with the task of eating.
    You could also try rewarding her with a sweet treat if she eats her meal like a good girl…



  • Is she allergic to the foods given Try one of her favourite foods and see how it goes



  • I would take her to a doctor she may have a problem.



  • I hope things have worked out well



  • Have you had any progress?



  • I put the fav show on. Wiggles or hi 5 and my daughter ate without realizing as she was engrossed on what was on tv



  • once she throws food on the ground, don’t replenish it. She’ll soon get hungry if there’s not much left on her plate to eat.



  • I would suggest telling her calmly before the meal that anything she throws she loses, and putting her outside or somewhere easily cleaned (this works best with a high chair) and sit nearby to keep an eye on her, but act distracted. Try reading a book or playing on your phone, and leave her be until either all the food is on the floor or eaten. When this is done, pick her up and put her inside (or completely away from the mess) and carry on as if nothing had happened. If possible have someone else distract her after about 10 minutes and sneak out to clean up, making sure she doesn’t know where you have gone. If you keep this up for a week or two and she sees she is getting absolutely zero reaction from you, this will allow her to see that she is not getting attention from it, and will generally stop the behaviour



  • She may be allergic to the food your giving her and that’s the only way to tell you?



  • Keep offering her healthy food- you certainly don’t want her to think that meals don’t apply to her!



  • Its hard but I hope it all works out well. :-)


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