Short answer is no. They are boys Andy are close in age. One of the other suggestions re spending alone ti e with each of them could help (but you have to be able to get that time which is not always possible). If find my boys delightful one on one, but when together they do vie for attention. Alas I think it might just Ben something that you have to learn to live with.

When I read your concern, my immediate thought was that perhaps the kids are jealous of each other and are vying for your attention. My suggestion is to have a time each week where u just do something special with one of your children, just u and your child. It could just be for an hour. U could play at the park together or go on a bus ride… while your partner or relative or friend minds the other toddler at home. Then the next week it is the other child’s turn to have u all to himself. All the best.

Get used to it! My kids were shocking too. Even now, aged 29 and 26, they’ll still have a bit of a go. It gets better but doesn’t disappear completely

As soon as they can I would suggest putting them on Martial Arts, where they learn to control what they’re doing and respect the other.

Have something distracting ready for when they start, preferably something that will keep their hands busy – like bubble mix.