The mum says she was furious when she discovered the change… almost two months after the birth!
A new mum has shared her anger in an advice column on Slate after discovering that her mother-in-law changed the spelling of her son’s name behind her back. Looking at her son’s birth certificate eight weeks after the birth, the mum says she noticed that his middle name had been recorded with a different spelling, and was horrified when her husband confirmed his mother’s involvement…
The mum says that she had discussed her son’s middle name with her husband prior to the birth and they had agreed on ‘Finley’. Unfortunately, the birth didn’t go as planned and her son was delivered via emergency C-section, which is allegedly when her mother-in-law took the opportunity to put in her two cents’ worth. “I, of course, am furious because I told him I was fine with the middle name but it had to be spelt Finley and he agreed before our son was ever born,” she said. “Now here is where it gets tricky. Apparently his mother guilt-tripped him into (changing it to Finlay) while I was asleep after my emergency C-section.” If that’s not total manipulation and taking advantage of a situation, we don’t know what is!!
Not The First Time
To add insult to injury, it turns out that her mother-in-law had also tried to change the first name allegedly saying that her daughter-in-law would “get over it”. The mum said she is debating confronting her mother-in-law about the issue as this kind of interference and manipulation is becoming a pattern. “My husband is very much also at fault for doing this in the first place and we are working through that together, but I feel as though something needs to be said to my mother-in-law,” she wrote.
This story is totally unbelievable – does this mother-in-law sound interfering or what!? Hopefully this new mum is able to change her son’s name to the spelling she originally wanted and get her husband to be a little more assertive when it comes to his interfering mother!
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