This frustrated mum says her mother-in-law won’t call the children by their actual names…

A mum has taken to Reddit to share her annoyance about her mother-in-law refusing to call her grandchildren by their actual names. The mum says religious differences are at the root of the problem, with her mother-in-law giving her children nicknames based on her preferred names for them, rather than the names they were called.

A Difference Of Opinion

The mum-of-two said that her mother-in-law had strong ideas about what she should name her two daughters. “She wanted me to name my first daughter Amazing Grace,” says the mum. “But I would rather gargle broken glass and gasoline.” After declining the suggestion, the mum says that she was told it would make no difference. “She said ‘you can call her any name you want but I’m going to call her Mazie. Short for Amazing Grace.'” the mum revealed. To make matters worse, the family are currently living at the mother-in-law’s house on a temporary basis, making the disagreement a daily source of tension between them.

Keeping The Peace

Commenters on the post encouraged the mum to stand up to her mother-in-law. “I would not put up with this if I was you,” said one. “It’s disgusting and childish.” The mum, however, said she is determined to keep the peace until they are no longer living under the same roof. “I’m just trying to ride out the time we have to be here without making waves, until we’re gone,” she said.

Choosing a name for your child is never easy, especially when everybody has an opinion, but it’s even worse when someone refuses to respect your choice!

Did a family member disapprove of the name you chose for your child? Share your story in the comments.


  • Very childish of the mother in law but there’s a lot worse things that could happen I suppose


  • I’d get out of there as quickly as possible and see how mum in law feels after having no contact with her granddaughters for a couple of months. You need to respect a parents choice of name even if you don’t like it.


  • I wouldn’t be bothered but I’d probably call her a nickname too.


  • It can cause tension, but it’s just a nickname. At the end of the day MIL did not get her own way and she is being childish. She thinks mother (grand mother) still knows right. Only now her opinion no longer matters


  • All these horrid MIL stories. Have a chat to your partner about it, ensure they understand that you feel it is being disrespectful and confusing for your child especially when they are younger. Then together, approach your MIL about it.


  • She is grandma.. who really cares though?


  • It’s a complete lack of respect for the children! Our Punks are almost 6 and one of my brothers still hasn’t bothered to learn which one is which, just calls them both a combination of the two names. I calmly but firmly told him last time I saw him that it’s not okay and that he needs to show some respect to these two children who always show respect to him when they see him. Admittedly, we don’t see him all that often, BUT THEY AREN’T EVEN IDENTICAL TWINS. They look nothing alike, they are nothing alike and they dress completely different to each other, with one preferring dresses and the other preferring jeans and superhero shirts. It’s not that hard! Rant over, apologies for ranting but thank you for listening!


  • Personally I would not allow my kids to visit someone who does not respect them & myself enough to call my children by their correct names, Grandmother or not I don’t care you & until you treat me with respect or you don’t get to visit them. This mother need to stand up for herself & her children because this is manipulation to gain control & so very childish that she did not get her way in the first place.


  • My in-laws disapproved of most things to do with me. Their evil and disrespectful behaviour means we are now totally disconnected from them. They have raised their own children (badly and with abuse) and I will not allow them to do the same to my child (their grandchild).


  • I can understand your frustration but I think you are just going to have to let it go for now. Why not start calling you MIL by a nickname and say that you think it suits her. She may get the hint but at least it might reduce some of your frustration. Naming a child is you and your husbands responsibility.


  • I think it’s kind of silly, but not really that big a deal. It’s not like the Grandma is being nasty or anything, just calling a child a different nick name. That can be something between ‘Mazie’ and her Grandma to sort out.


  • you have to respect peoples choices even if they are not what you would have chosen.


  • It is so strange to hear what some other families put up with. The poor children would be so confused. It’s fine when nicknames naturally come about – but not when someone goes out of their way to come up with one.


  • The reason behind it is pathetic but kids have so many nicknames as they grow up. If the MIL is nice enough to let them stay at her house then it is probably a topic to just leave alone. If it pisses her off so much she should stay somewhere else and have some space from the MIL.


  • Goodness me, what an immature lady. I would be totally annoyed. Shame they are living in the same house.


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