Mum slammed for suggesting young boy not welcome at playground because it was for girls only!
The woman asked for advice after she had been regularly meeting up with some other mums and their daughters for a play date at a local playground.
She posted her question online at The Washington Post’s live chat with Carolyn Hax.
Advice columnist Carolyn Hax chats live every Friday at noon to answer any questions you might have about this strange train we call life.
The mum wrote: “I have a daughter and some other mums of daughters and I have started getting together at a local playground at a set time each week.
“Recently a mum of a boy brought her son to the playground at the same time we were there. I asked her (nicely, I thought) if she would mind leaving because we had wanted it to be a girls-only time. She refused and seemed angry at me.
“If she comes back, is there a better way I can approach her? This has been such a sweet time for mums and daughters and having a boy there is naturally going to change things.
“We live in a world where boys get everything and girls are left with the crumbs, and I would think this mum would realize that, but she seems to think her son is entitled to crash this girls-only time. I know I can’t legally keep her from a public park, but can I appeal to her better nature?” (Is she serious!?)
Carolyn replied with: “Can I appeal to -your- better nature?
Goddess help us all.
“Shooing off the mum and her boy was terrible. And justifying it as a cosmic correction? Wow.
“That kid is a human being–not with privileged little man feelings, either, but with feelings, period. Perhaps even a disposition that fit better into your idea of girl behavior than one or more of the girls there. People are not widgets. And the adult you shooed off is a mum, possessor of the same crumbs you’ve been fed, no? So don’t you think she would have just liked to hang with some fellow mums in the park while she was out with her child?
“I mean, maybe not now. I’d avoid you thereafter if I were the one you asked to leave on these terms.
“If you’re going to have an exclusive gathering, then host it on private property.
“And if you’re going to accuse anyone of being “entitled,” then ask yourself who was claiming possession of public space for her own purposes.”
Thank you, Carolyn!
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