This mum-to-be couldn’t hide her disappointment after her gender reveal didn’t turn out the way she’d hoped.

An expectant mum has been left devastated after discovering she is having a boy instead of a girl. Taking to Reddit, her husband says she “made it clear from before she was pregnant that she really wanted a daughter” and has now lost interest in the pregnancy, refusing to talk about it at all The Courier Mail reports.

Just A Feeling

Leading up to the 20 week scan, the mum-to-be had a feeling she was having a girl but burst into tears when it was revealed that she was in fact having a boy. Despite it being a month since she found out the gender, her husband says she is still not over the shock and has stopped all preparation for the baby’s arrival. “It’s such an overreaction,” he said. “I told her that she needs to come to terms with this because the gender isn’t going to change. I told her she needs to get a grip. I felt awful but I feel like nearly a month of this is ridiculous.”

A Forum Divided

Responses to the post were mixed, with many rallying around the husband saying having a preference for your baby’s gender is setting yourself up for a fall. “It deeply disturbs me when people obsess over the sex and put a lot of weight into it,” wrote one forum user. “When parents obsess over the sex and act out like this when they don’t get what they want, that’s a terrible sign regarding their expectations as a parent.” Others said the mum could be experiencing prenatal depression. “Gender disappointment is real,” said one concerned commenter. “Many pregnant women get it.”

Have you experienced ‘gender disappointment’? Share your story in the comments!


  • I think many of us experience gender disappointment, but don’t carry on like this. When my second daughter was born and we were hoping for a boy, there was some disappointment, but the lady I was sharing a room with had just had her 6th little girl and they were desperately hoping for a boy. Often wondered whether she finally had her son.


  • Unless there is a hereditary medical issue that is causing her to be so upset, she may be suffering from prenatal depression. Not many talk about that but it can be a horrendous as postnatal depression. I know a young Mum who spent 3 weeks in hospital because of prenatal depression.


  • Hopefully everyone is supporting her. Maybe she needs to speak to her doctor about how she is feeling as it could be prenatal depression. There could also be underlying reasons for her feeling this way that she doesn’t want to talk about.


  • Wow! I was just hoping for a healthy, live baby. I always referred to my bump as a ‘he’ and I delivered a boy, but I had no expectation whatsoever. I’d be seeking professional help as I do understand prenatal depression is a thing.


  • I burst into tears when I found out I was carrying a baby boy (mind you I didn’t want to find out the sex – unfortunately my husband worked it out and the staff didn’t really stop him saying it). Although I was disappointed and upset for a while, in a way I was glad that I had time get used to the idea and my son is now 14 and I couldn’t love him more.
    I hope this women gets the support she needs in order to deal with this and I hope that once her beautiful boy is born she embraces him.


  • I honestly didn\’t mind either way with my 3, so I don\’t quite understand people who are so adamant about wanting a particular sex. It is totally real though. My mum is a counsellor & once had a client whose gender scan was wrong. She had to help her \”grieve\” the loss of her boy before she could accept her girl.


  • I hope she snaps out of it before her baby is born !


  • I hope she realises a happy healthy baby boy is a huge blessing before he is born


  • I got over it a lot quicker, but I was sure I was having a girl, name was picked etc.. and I guess I was shocked how wrong I was (so much for mother’s intuition)and I did cry, neither my husband or I are sporty, in fact we both hate organised sports and the whole culture that surrounds them, he is now 8 and our second, you guessed it another boy are needing sports and it kills us, we have to negotiate behind closed doors who’s going to take the hit and go to sport, we would have loved it if they had gotten into the theatre, but we have to let them choose their own path, no matter how much I die inside each time I have to go watch sport , I’m the only female in the house (even our pets are boys) and even though I’m not super girly, I miss having some female company, or even the opportunity to make girly things with my painting and crafts, (before you all say I could do it for myself) it’s not the same and there’s only so much you can do for yourself, I’m always making cards etc.. for parties the boys go to and the larger majority of those are boys, I do love it when the girls in their classes invite them to parties, I get to make and shop girls things


  • Many babies are killed daily because of gender preference in Nigeria, Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Indonesia and China, Azerbaijan, Vietnam. My heart aches thinking about that.
    So sad that gender preference also occurs in our country.


  • She most likely feels terrible for having these feelings. Pregnancy is a strange thing, so many hormones which can make you quite emotional over the oddest little things or it could be the beginning of prenatal depression.


  • I know this is a thing, but I can’t undsrstand it. I didn’t find out the sex of my baby because honestly I was going to be happy with Either sex. All I wanted after a miscarriage, a pregnancy with lots of scares and a horrible labor was a healthy baby.


  • She might have pre-natal depression it’s not always post natal I’m sure she will love her little boy when he arrives.


  • If these were the disappointments in life! Let’s just think about all those women who want to become mothers and they simply can’t.


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