Mum shares strict mobile phone rules in her house and the internet can’t handle it!
Glennon Doyle shared on her Facebook how when people visit her house she has a phone in the basket policy.
“I love my kids’ friends so much that I want them to talk to each other at our house. So Abby and I have them check their phones at the door. Which we can do cause we’re the bosses of this house.
“They all act exasperated but seem interestingly relieved. Then, after a minute, they look at each other. And talk. And dance and laugh and stuff. And they remember that they are with their friends so there is no need to be anywhere else.”
Many people loved her idea and were willing to give it a try as well. While others said it was setting a bad example.
– One comment read, “If an adult tries to confiscate my child’s only way to contact a parent, I’m teaching them it’s a red flag. This is an unhealthy power dynamic & not something you should be setting up. Bad example, Glennon Doyle. It’s just not 1995 anymore and we need to teach our kids how to work with what we have rather than try to parent through nostalgia.”
– Another said, “Sorry, while it’s tempting to want to force children to enjoy their social time the way we did as children, because we feel it’s “better”, at the end of the day, technology isn’t going away. If someone told me I couldn’t have access to my phone in order to socialize I’d be incensed. I use my phone to Google things we are talking about, show off pictures of kids and vacations, check the weather while planning a trip, call or FaceTime relatives who can’t be there, etc. There’s no reason children and teenagers can’t use media responsibly and socially. If they aren’t then it’s like everything else… We the ADULTS are supposed to be modeling appropriate social behavior, regardless of which media outlets are nearby. Can you imagine when the printing press came out, if parents banned newspapers or books during social time? How does this help them learn to integrate and balance technology/media with face to face interaction? It’s adults placing value on something because of our nostalgia… Let the children decide how to experience their time together. Only by making our own decisions do we actually learn.”
– “I’d be upset if I tried to reach MY child, and wasn’t able to because someone took away the phone that I pay for and provide for MY child.”
– “What if a kid feels unsafe/uncomfortable & needs to text their parent to pick them up but doesn’t want to draw attention to themselves by going to get their phone? This is just grandstanding.”
– “I understand where you’re coming from, but as parents we have to teach our children to limit themselves. I think you need to take a good hard look at this. I can’t imagine what this did to the high anxiety kid in the bunch. Or the one being excluded or the one with a headache or whatever. By the number of phones there, odds are you had at least one kid that needed a lifeline. Phones, tech, etc are here to stay. Teach your children to find their limits. Much harder than doing it yourself initially. But, then all of a sudden, they’re doing it themselves.”
– “As a parent I think I’d be a little peeved if someone else felt the authority to take my child’s phone from them…”
Do you think it is a good idea, or feel like it is overstepping some boundary?
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