The mum says that her 12-year-old daughter refuses to accept the realities of puberty and walks away when it is brought up in discussion.
A concerned mum has taken to Reddit to ask for advice as her 12-year-old daughter refuses to discuss or adapt to puberty.
The mum says that her daughter has been going through puberty for around two years, but admits that she is to have ‘the talk’ with her.
So Many Changes
Despite experiencing many of the changes that come with puberty, the mum says her daughter won’t buy any of the products she needs.
“She needs puberty supplies like bras, deodorant, and menstrual supplies,” she wrote in her post. “She refuses to buy them or use them. We have tried to make it into a girly shopping trip with a trusted female adult that isn’t necessarily me or just buy it all online, but she won’t do either.”
The mum says that her daughter has been taught about puberty from a scientific perspective at school but still hasn’t had a detailed conversation about ‘the birds and the bees.’
“Whenever we try giving it, she all of a sudden has to go to the bathroom or there’s suddenly homework or chores she needs to do.”
A Difficult Time
Comments on the mum’s post pointed out that the emotional changes of puberty can have an even greater impact than the physical ones.
“Some girls are open about it and others feel awkward and embarrassed,” said one forum member. “Everyone is different and they adjust at their own pace.”
“Try to normalise it by talking about it often, possibly in the car where she can’t escape,” another suggested. “Even if it’s awkward and she doesn’t seem to respond, she will hear the information and it will be easier to bring it up again in the future.”
Puberty is a stressful and uncomfortable time for anyone, so we can completely understand why this mum and daughter are struggling to talk about it. We definitely think that discussing it regularly and informally is the best option so that it doesn’t sound like something to be feared or ashamed about.
How did you talk to your children about puberty? Let us know in the comments.