Mum shares her shock after being asked to contribute $46 for her 10-year-old daughter to attend a friend’s birthday party.
Posting anonymously to the forum Netmums she explained that she had only been given two days notice ahead of the event and was asked to pay a fee after accepting the invitation.
“My 10 year old daughter has been invited out for a friends birthday, there’s about 10 of them going and we’ve only been given 2 days notice. The mum messaged me and asked if she could go to which I said yes, she then replied with a price it would cost. Altogether I’m going to be expected to pay around £25.” ($46au)
“I wouldn’t have minded so much if the cost was made clear in the beginning but it was only after I accepted the invite. Should I still bring a gift,” she asked.
She continued, “Maybe this is a done thing but I personally wouldn’t dream of inviting my DD’s friends to a party and asking for a contribution! If I couldn’t afford for her to do something with that many friends we wouldn’t do it or we’d cut the guest list down! Opinions? Maybe I’m just being unreasonable!”
“Oh that’s odd? If I was inviting other kids to go out with my son for his birthday, then I would fully expect to foot the bill!”
“I’d be p’d off. The parents throwing the party should pay, and tbh it seems like your dd is only a last minute invite, to make up numbers.”
“I wouldn’t ask others to pay. If you can’t afford your child’s birthday party you shouldn’t be throwing one in my opinion. Also why only two days notice?”
“What a cheek! There is no way I would hold a party and then expect people to pay for it!
“Very odd. Not once have I come across having to pay, and we’ve done our fair share of taking kids out to birthday events and parties at home! But then maybe they are extremely hard up and this is the only possible way they can do it. Very bad organisation though too – two days! Poor kid may not get many yes-s on that basis.”
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