Mum slammed online after revealing her ‘humiliating’ punishment for her teenage daughter.

The mum, who labelled it ‘tough love’ claims she’s teaching her daughter to not ‘act a fool at school and at home’ by making her sleep on the floor and re-wear the same three outfits for a month.

In the post, which has since been deleted from Facebook, the mum said she has ‘reached her limit’ with her daughter after ‘busting her butt’ to give her everything possible in life, shares Yahoo.

“She will learn to appreciate having a nice cozy bed .. now that she is sleeping on the floor,” the mum started the post.

“She will learn to appreciate the clothes and shoes we have bought her now that I have limited her to 3 pants , 3 tops and 3 undergarments , 1 hoodie and 1 jacket and 2 pairs of shoes.”

“She will learn to appreciate having a washer and dryer …because now she will have to wash those 3day outfits by HAND to re-wear them.

“She will appreciate the fact that she had nice clothes to sport the weekends ..because now she will be wearing her same weekday school uniforms during the weekend .. since that’s part of the wardrobe I allowed her to keep!

“She will appreciate to have had a tv to watch because now she will only have the 4 walls in her room to look at or a book to read.

“She will learn to appreciate family time and miss it now that she will have plenty of time alone to think about her horrible actions!

“She will appreciate the phone she had and we pay for because now she is disconnected from the world. NO SOCIAL MEDIA, NO FRIENDS , NOTHING!”

‘They take everything for granted and complain about every little dumb crap,” she continued.

“So at this point this punishment is indefinite but at the very minimum a month.

“Best believe she’s going to learn from this one!! #ToughLove”

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People soon had a lot to say about the punishment with many agreeing with her ‘tough love’, while others were calling it ‘psychological abuse’.

“I feel this is extreme. The parents should be trying to get to the root of the issue and why she did whatever it was she did. All this is gonna do is probably send her into a deep depression from isolation and humiliation. It isn’t gonna solve the actual problem just worsen it,” one person said.

“Here’s the big thing: They say “the punishment should always fit the crime.”

:There is no clear crime committed here based on the punishment given. Did she…. have too many things?? Spend too much time with her family?? Use her bed too much??,” another person said.

“This is a POWER TRIP. Not a punishment. This isn’t “you used your phone to contact someone you shouldn’t have so I’m taking the phone away” or “you don’t wash your own dishes so you have to wash everyone’s dishes”

“This is “fear me because I will take away everything you have and isolate you from the world. I am your god and you should treat me as such”.”

Do you think the mum went too far?

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  • Well, each to their own but why share it on social media? People need to learn to stop over sharing it!

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  • I think it would be rather effective way of showing her how life could be. Maybe not share it with everyone though

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  • I don’t disagree with what she did with her child – but I do disagree with putting it out there on social media.

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  • Ooh, we all do the best we can but… my issue is with this being shared on social media in the first place. It’s out there forever (even if deleted) and you can’t take it back. Not necessary to share on such a public forum.

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  • The danger by this tough way of disciplining is that we drive our teenagers further away from us instead of building a good relationship with elements of openness and trust. This will probably not help.

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  • Ok sounds like she went too far. You shouldn’t buy your children everything anyway or they will assume everything is easy for them.

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  • I believe she went too far but she doesn’t give her reason for doing what she did. No matter what my kids did, I wouldn’t make them wear their school clothes on a weekend. She may be creating more problems than she realises with this punishment

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  • She went too far, most definitely, this is abuse.

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  • there has to be more to this story. This seems very extreme to come out of nowhere because her daughter is ungrateful.

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  • Wow she must have done something seriously extreme to get this kind of punishment. Poor kid

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  • This type of ‘punishment’ doesn’t seem to work at making teenager behaviour improve.

    We are finding that treating our teenagers with respect, talking openly, having discussions, enabling input and being supportive through these challenging years is working so much better.
    We still have lots of bumps. But we are all learning with each of them.
    I like to think that we are there to support our kids before they go out into the world. We help to prepare them to be the best that they can.
    Kindness seems to have a better outcome than a dictatorship.

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  • This is just awful. Parents are not Gods.
    I hope this mum is prepared for some tough love when she is old and needs to be cared for.


    • Oh my goodness, that poor Mum and daughter. My biggest concern would be – what exactly will the teenager learn? Nothing kind, perhaps nothing that you would ever want a young woman to know and replicate.

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  • It is 100 percent emotion abuse, how would you feel if your husband or partner did this to you, because you did something he didn’t like, how about instead of power tripping over your child, you help her. Talk to her, understand what it is that maybe triggering her. This type of isolation can lead to far worse for this young lady then you can ever imagine. Wake up to yourself.

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  • I think that this is probably going a bit too far. Fair enough for trying to teach her a lesson but it needs to still preserve her dignity.

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  • You’re the one that raising her Mumma bear. Help her to form new, better habits instead of humiliating her. (Like I totally get the frustration, my kids are pigs, but that’s where pocket money and incentives to keep tidier come into play.)

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