May 9, 2019

Should I let my 10-year old get his ears pinned back due to bullying?

Sharing on #momanswer  the concerned mum wrote, “YIKES! My ten-year old son has asked if he can get his ears pinned back.

“His ears have always been a bit sticky-outy but we’ve never made a big deal about this. But I think he’s getting teased at school and it’s really bothering him.

“He just seems so young to have any kind of cosmetic surgery.

“I am absolutely torn. What should I do? Would you let him do it? Anyone else gone through this procedure?”

Mums share their opinions

Mums definitely had no hesitation in saying YES get it fixed now!

Helen shared, “My hubby had this done when he was very young, 10-12 years old (not 100% sure). He never regretted it and always said it was best thing he did.”

Jan shared, “Our sons were done when he was about 7. Unfortunately due to having to wear compulsory school hats through primary school one ear wasn’t totally successful. However in saying that they still looked better, he didn’t get teased and he was happy.
Consult a pediatrician.”

Lou shared, “I had my sons ears done when he was 5 yrs , we had a wonderful ENT surgeon. My son had absolutely no pain at all after surgery he didn’t have any pain medication,even the doctor said this was unusual I think he has a high pain threshold . I’m glad I had it done , surgery was done in the winter and he had to wear his bandages for several weeks , he just wore a beanie to school. I do not regret having this procedure . All I can say is do your homework on surgeons as I said I was fortunate enough to have a fantastic doctor. Go with your gut feeling.”

Kirsty said, “I would have no hesitation if it were my son! Go for it.”

Leanne agreed, “Yes no questions, if he is on board and wants it too. I am sure it will do wonders for his self esteem.”

Others also agreed,

“Most definitely, kids are cruel and it will make a HUGE DIFFERENCE!!!”

“Definitely yes! He will feel better about himself!”

“Let him get it done.”

“Do it!!”

What would you do?

Join our discussion below:

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  • I would be hesitant to get any sort of surgery unless absolutely necessary. I’d want to address the bullying first, it shouldn’t be happening. When he’s older he can get it done if he’s still upset about it.

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  • I would consult with a specialist to help me make up my mind, I would do it without my son first so that he doesn’t get his hopes raised if the final decision was to not go ahead with the surgery. But the specialist would have all sorts of these experiences which might help the decision making process

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  • Definitely talk to a specialist about it and go from there.

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  • If it is really effecting him I would say yes.

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  • Oh yes, without a doubt. My sister in law had her ears pinned back when she was a teenager.

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  • My mum and dad said that it was normal for children after birth to have their ears taped back to their heads so this wouldn’t happen. That was back in the early 1920’s. Babies didn’t feel the tape and a knitted baby hat was on them as well. The phenomenon of big ears is a late 20th century problem.

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  • Absolutely. Yes. Do it. Why make it harder for him than it needs to be.

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  • If it was your son’s choice then absolutely get it done. It means that he is either being teased already or he’s very self conscious about them. He may have seen others being picked on for ears that stand out. He will love you more for doing this for him.

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  • This is just terrible I didn’t even realise it was a thing. Hopefully this kid grown into their ears.

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  • If your son wants them done to avoid bullying and distress, absolutely. I have a nephew who had them done because he wanted them done based on people picking on him. Even strangers in the street or at the shopping centre would mock him as he walked by. My son had braces, against my better judgement as I’m not one for keeping up with the joneses or improving your looks to suit an Instagram culture. However, when he explained to me why he wanted braces, due to the bullying etc. he had endured, I understood how important it was to him. So I agreed. This boy clearly wants them down, so I would say yes.

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  • I didn’t know it could be done so young. If bullying is the motivator, then consulting a specialist is a good first step to restoring his self esteem. Does his school offer any programs on resilience or self esteem? I have a child being badly bullied and the resilience program he has started has made a difference to his self image and given him coping strategies for so many situations, not just the one main issue he is singled out for.

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  • I would. I would also have a really frank discussion about being different to others and how that’s ok. He shouldn’t feel like he has to look the same as everyone else

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  • If they are causing your child distress then yes get it done and save years of torment

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  • My dad suggested this to my sister once. I don’t remember her ears ever being an issue for her, but they must have been to dad. My dad was like that. He always told us how my younger sister was the mistake and shouldn’t be here.

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  • It is possibly a good idea. He can’t even let his hair grow longer to hide them.
    I would hope they didn’t pin them too tightly so he can still clean behind them properly.

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