Mum upset at mother-in-law kissing her grandkids on the lips.

The anonymous mum shared on the parenting forum, Netmums, how horrified she was about how her MIL kisses the kids on the lips, but she and her husband do NOT.

Her post says: “I’ve noticed my mother in law keeps kissing my 1 and 2 year old kids on the lips.

“I guess I notice it and it stands out to me because no one else I know does this and myself and my other half don’t even kiss our kids in this way. She wears lipstick as well.

“I mean I’m not suggesting there’s anything dodgy with her doing this but I’m not easy with it. My kids squirm as well. But I’m not sure what I can do or say.

“We don’t have a close relationship and my partner also doesn’t have an easy relationship with his parents.

“If either of us were to comment it would likely blow up into a massive thing.

“What does everyone think about this kind of thing, has anyone had anything similar?”

The responses were very mixed with some people saying she was being silly while others agreed that nobody should kiss children on the lips.

“Personally, I think it’s a bit sexual for a child this young – to be kissing adults on the lips.”

“This is so freaky,” said one.

“You are all weird,” said another.

‘Doesn’t everyone’s mum kiss them on the lips! It’s not sexual, it is what you do! This is madness,” ranted another mum.

“Sorry, you shouldn’t mouth kiss kids, it’s uncomfortable for everyone. Save it for your other half,” she said.

“I think it’s how you’re brought up. To be honest if people see it as sexual then they are the ones with the sexual thoughts which is pretty odd.”

How do you feel about people kissing kids on the lips?

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  • I have never thought it correct to kiss anyone other than my husband on the lips. Doesn’t mean I don’t kiss and hug my children and grandchildren – just not on the lips. I agree with this mum complaining about her MIL

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  • Her baby her rules. MIL needs to remember it’s not all about her!

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  • Nope. No mouth kissing. End of.

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  • I support her. No mouth kissing. I had to stop my MIL from
    Doing this and she wasn’t happy, but they are my kids and the only people they should be kissing on the lips are Mum and dad.
    Plus not to mention the extra worry of spreading germs.

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  • I don’t think its necessary, she can kiss them on the cheek.

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  • I was brought up being kissed on the cheek. I’ve never felt comfortable being kissed on the lips by anyone except my boyfriend/husband.

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  • We kiss our child on the cheek and that’s it..

    No mouth kissing. That’s for mummy and daddy.

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  • I know we kissed our son on the lips for a time, but that’s for us, his parents… not for others. And with the transfer of illness, germs, etc. I wouldn’t encourage anyone else to do it. Boundaries! And personal space!

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  • medically it’s a health risk small traces of saliva can cause dental issues not to mention risk of cold sores. Then there’s the fact that it’s just not appropriate whether your intentions are good or not. It’s way too intimate.

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  • Yup totally gross. Love for kids or parents does not warrant kissing on lips.

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  • Oh that is gross

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  • I do with my littlest kids… They kind of grow out of it. But I don’t think it should happen if kds are clearly unomfortable.

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  • I don’t think it’s really appropriate – if they are concerned they need to discuss it with the people involved whether they are close or not.

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  • I’d bring it up by saying – we’ve noticed you kissing our kids on the lips. They’re learning about not doing this at school / home. We want to make sure you don’t get any germs too.

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  • I have to say, I do sometimes when my kids are babies! And I don’t think I’d have a problem with a grandparent doing it if it’s an innocent thing for them.

    If your super not comfortable with it then you have the right to talk to them about it. :) I can’t say I’d worry if it wasn’t happening very often though!

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