This is why you need to stop questioning the decisions you make as a parent. In the end, it really won’t matter!
When your children become adults, no one is gonna ask if you were born via c section in order to be your mate.
No one will say, “oh bro… were you formula fed or breastfed? Because we are getting pizzas and we aren’t sure if you should come”
No one is gonna reject queen Beyoncé’s children for a play date because she formula fed her three. No effen way.
For university, no one will ask if you stopped shitting your pants at 3 or 4.
Or in a job interview there won’t be any questions “and at what age Ms. smith, did you stop wearing night nappies?”
When and if they get married, their vows aren’t going to say “and even though I co slept and you slept in a cot, we will try and make it until death to us part”
Unless I asked, I couldn’t tell these things with most people.
Yep, there are loads of studies that tell us which is best, and I’m not disputing it. But these studies don’t tell individual stories, or struggles, that come along with parenting.
They don’t tell you about the mother who tried breastfeeding until she was in hospital with mastitis, with bleeding nipples and a drip, or those who struggled and struggled taking drugs to increase supply only to be told her child is failing to thrive, or the mother who adopted her child when he was 3 weeks old.
They don’t tell stories about mothers who are shamed feeding in public.
They don’t know about the struggles of postpartum depression and only having a baby that will sleep when they’re right next to their mama.
But you will be able to tell, when your children become adults, is how they were raised with so much love, from people who would do absolute anything for them. Because they will be kind, they will be caring and they will have empathy. They will be adults who were supported and parented by someone who did their best.
Stop beating yourself up for your choices and the choices that were given to you.
You are doing an amazing job not raising assholes, and really when they grow up, that’s all that counts!
Laura’s post spoke volumes to hundreds of parents attracting over 530 shares and 1800 reactions.
“Exactly. Thank you for saying what I’ve been trying to fully explain to a couple of my friends. Supposedly I’m not bonded well enough with A cuz I didnt breastfeed, and that’s also why he’s so short for his age….”
“Wish someone had read this to me when I was struggling with post natal depression, probably triggered by having to give up breastfeeding and feeling a failure. My two have grown up into two fine young people who are very caring and motivated, even though I brought them up by myself for most of their lives. All they really need is unconditional love and parents who want to spend quality time with them.”
“Exactly, mothers all love their children from the day they are born, till the day your mother takes her last breath. Your mother will always do the right thing by you. As a mother you will always do the right thing”
“Keepin’ it real!!”
“Never read anything more true !!!!”
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