After this UK mum ran into complications giving birth, her nervous husband rang his mother for a bit of support. What happened next has really upset the new mum.
The new mum revealed on Mumsnet that she is upset at her mother-in-law after she realised she had held her baby before she did.
The woman who writes under the username MissBax explained that her mother-in-law is a doctor and works for the same hospital trust she was delivering at, but not in the women’s section.
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“She was able to obtain access to the recovery area with her work’s access card, and just let herself in without permission,” she said.
“I wasn’t asked if it was okay if she could be there, and because I was being stitched up on theatre still, she held my DD [darling daughter] before I even got to. I’m so angry and upset about this.
“Prior to going into labour, I’d discussed with DH [darling husband] that I didn’t want anyone visiting for at least a day or so, let alone have MIL [mother-in-law] there before I’ve even held my own child.”
She added, “I’m livid that the midwives allowed her to be there without asking me and I’m angry that DH didn’t advocate for me more too. He should have told her not to come, or to wait outside.”
“I had a long recovery as there were complications during the birth and so have only just really processed it. I haven’t spoken to DH about it and wouldn’t want to make him feel bad by bringing it up now but I’m really upset by it.
I don’t really know what my AIBU (am I being unreasonable) is to be honest, but just wanted to get it off my chest to someone.”
Plenty of mothers tried to offer explanations or reasons for the behaviour, saying she must have just been there to support her son but the new mum wasn’t comforted by this.
“Well yes, she was coming to support her son. But what happened to checking with the woman who’s just been cut open and had her baby removed from her for 45 mins, if it’s okay if someone can be in the recovery area (which she had accessed illegally) holding her child, without her permission?” MissBax replied.
However, plenty of mothers on the forum offered their sympathies and shared in her outrage, recommending MissBax make a formal complaint to the hospital.
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