Mum shares her post baby help pledge that included a housekeeper, cook and babysitter as a must!
Baby contracts are growing in popularity and often cover what happens to a child in the event of a break up, child support, custody etc.
But they can also include things like the division of household chores, carer responsibilities like who changes the nappies, financial and working arrangements, plus in home care support as required.
It’s been reported in the past that Jay-Z agreed to pay Beyonce $5 million every time she has a baby.
Petal & Thorn shared her pledge for HELP if she were to have a second child.
The contract included:
1. I get to see an in-home lactation consultant pretty much immediately. Last time, my doula and midwife thought Sisi was nursing well, but I was in horrible pain and had cracked, bleeding nipples. Turns out, she was sucking me like a bent straw and barely getting anything. So next time, I’m going straight to the expert to check and make sure things are good in the milk department.
2. Housekeeper will deep clean the house every 2 weeks. This is a must! I like a clean, serene environment, especially when my life is chaos.
3. Babysitter (could just be a family member, friend, or teenager from the neighborhood) will play with Sisi whenever I need a break, or just want one-on-one baby time. Likewise, I want to be able to spend one-on-one time with Sisi, too, so a loving grandma to watch the baby regularly would be swell!
4. This time, I won’t quit therapy just because my schedule is crazy and unpredictable. Squeezing in a 50 minute skype or phone session every few weeks is non-negotiable.
5. A cook! Last time, I lived on eggo waffles and frozen yogurt, hardly paleo fare (and hardly conducive to healthy breast milk!) I wonder now if my poor eating contributed to my mood and anxiety issues? Next time, I’ll hire a paleo meal service to bring meals if I’m too worn out to cook.
The blogger added, “I realize that these conditions might make me look spoiled or weak, especially to older generations of moms who were able to handle handfuls of kids without much help. But, I know myself and my limits. I regret not being able to enjoy Sisi as a sweet newborn because I was so miserable. If there is anything I can do to help prevent that, I sure will.”
What would you put in your baby help agreement?
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