Mum shares her post baby help pledge that included a housekeeper, cook and babysitter as a must!

Baby contracts are growing in popularity and often cover what happens to a child in the event of a break up, child support, custody etc.

But they can also include things like the division of household chores, carer responsibilities like who changes the nappies, financial and working arrangements, plus in home care support as required.

It’s been reported in the past that Jay-Z agreed to pay Beyonce $5 million every time she has a baby.

Petal & Thorn shared her pledge for HELP if she were to have a second child.

The contract included:

1. I get to see an in-home lactation consultant pretty much immediately. Last time, my doula and midwife thought Sisi was nursing well, but I was in horrible pain and had cracked, bleeding nipples. Turns out, she was sucking me like a bent straw and barely getting anything. So next time, I’m going straight to the expert to check and make sure things are good in the milk department.

2. Housekeeper will deep clean the house every 2 weeks. This is a must! I like a clean, serene environment, especially when my life is chaos.

3. Babysitter (could just be a family member, friend, or teenager from the neighborhood) will play with Sisi whenever I need a break, or just want one-on-one baby time. Likewise, I want to be able to spend one-on-one time with Sisi, too, so a loving grandma to watch the baby regularly would be swell!

4. This time, I won’t quit therapy just because my schedule is crazy and unpredictable. Squeezing in a 50 minute skype or phone session every few weeks is non-negotiable.

5. A cook! Last time, I lived on eggo waffles and frozen yogurt, hardly paleo fare (and hardly conducive to healthy breast milk!) I wonder now if my poor eating contributed to my mood and anxiety issues? Next time, I’ll hire a paleo meal service to bring meals if I’m too worn out to cook.
The blogger added, “I realize that these conditions might make me look spoiled or weak, especially to older generations of moms who were able to handle handfuls of kids without much help. But, I know myself and my limits. I regret not being able to enjoy Sisi as a sweet newborn because I was so miserable. If there is anything I can do to help prevent that, I sure will.”

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What would you put in your baby help agreement?

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  • I could never afford such luxuries. I’d love a cleaner for sure.

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  • I wouldn’t even bother with one. If anything, I would remind myself they’re only young once so make the most of it, spend as much time as you can with them and have fun with them. Time spent is what they’ll remember

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  • I would definitely love to be able to put in a contract that I get a cleaner etc but not practical for me.

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  • It is the costum in the Netherlands to get the first 10 days after birth maternity help. This person helps with cooking, caring for the baby, caring for the house and the wash, mom and baby, feeding etc, so that mom can heal and mom and baby can bond and settle in a good routine

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  • Nothing wrong with seeking help if it’s needed. Not sure this contract thing is needed but hey if it works and is helpful then might be a good thing.

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  • I agree with asking for help and not feeling ashamed to ask is a good thing, but needing to draw up a contract?

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  • If the relationship is healthy why is a contact needed. These things are discussed prior surely

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  • Whatever works for this mum – she has a plan.

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  • Paleo Diet means no Dairy to the best of my knowledge. I was put on it for a different reason. Not a good way to have plenty of energy at times. My Auntie had 2 boys. She managed to give the a good by doing one room per day. The kitchen – dining area was given a quick clean-up every day including sweeping the floor.

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  • Little bit over-the-top. Understandable you should plan for all of this before you even start thinking about having children. Yes help would be fantastic but having a piece of paper to remind you really isn’t necessary, I think you may need to discuss these things with your partner prior to having children to ensure that you’re both in the same page and you are aware of the expectations of each other. It’s not fair for Mum to feel stressed having to try and maintain the house and look after the children but it’s not necessary to have this one piece of paper either.

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  • Sounds like she’s dreaming. Just one thing on the list would be bliss for most new mums.

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  • Im so glad I dont need a baby contract. My husband and I work it out as we go. Parenting is constantly changing as our family need change.

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  • I see her reasoning, and it’s nt wrong – but to some extent it’s also dependent on having money to buy this help.

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