Parents at this British secondary school received a letter telling them to stop challenging teachers.
The principal of a private secondary school in England has sent a letter to parents, saying that they are too quick to rush to their children’s defence when they are disciplined by teachers. Bruce Grindlay said the number of parents challenging teachers for telling off their children had risen dramatically and that the letter was an attempt to encourage parents to place their trust in his staff.
A Triangular Relationship
In his letter, Mr Grindlay asked parents to be objective and think twice before challenging a teacher’s decision to get their child in trouble. “We must remember that we are adults in this triangular relationship – school, parent and pupil – and that the school is a deeply caring and nurturing environment. We are all trying to do what is best for your child – we do not relish telling children off and imposing sanctions – it is not our style to make children unhappy but it is necessary at times.” He said that the recent spike in parent complaints had prevented teachers from being able to effectively implement rules and expectations for fear of repercussions. “In society today, there is a culture of parents wanting to be friends with their children, without challenging them,” Mr Grindlay said.
A Show Of Support
Most parents at the school responded positively to the letter, saying that it was a courageous move on the part of Mr Grindlay to take a stand against the constant criticism teachers face. “Great letter. Great school. Great leadership.” wrote Toby, a parent of two children attending the school, sharing an image of the letter with his tweet. Toby acknowledged that while some in positions of authority may abuse their power, it shouldn’t prevent the majority of teachers from doing their job. “Schools, workplaces and society only work if people adhere to a few simple, well reasoned rules,” he said.
We have to say that we think Mr Grindlay may have a point – reasonable consequences for bad behaviour, implemented fairly, are a hugely important part of learning to be a responsible, kind and well-adjusted adult. And isn’t that all any parent can ever hope their child to be?
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