July 12, 2017

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Today’s topic of debate is the fact that some junior football leagues have scrapped scorelines and are introducing a “mercy rule” for junior teams being flogged by huge margins. The idea behind it is to stop kids from under 12s to under 16s losing heart and giving up the game – read more on that here.

The big question is – why do we feel that all children need to be rewarded and recognised for everything and anything? Why do we feel the need to punish those that truly deserve to be rewarded and instead hand out rewards for whatever might make little Tommy smile. Does it not take away the true meaning of a reward?

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We asked you what you thought of the reward and recognition certificates in Primary school.

Here are just a couple of examples of  rewards for Respect, Honesty and Integrity, Learning, Safety and Care & Understanding….

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*For returning lost property to a teacher on duty.
*For recommending a series of books that has become very popular in class.
*For holding the door open.
*For attending a book launch
*For always being organised

While some of you thought these rewards were a bit pointless and the behaviour should be totally expected not rewarded, others noted that it is great for teachers to find a reason to reward all kids in the class for some reason or another. I actually don’t think that is the case though to be honest. Neither of my boys have received many awards during Primary School so I don’t think (in our case anyway) that teachers try and do it to reward each student over time. I feel it needs to be a more consistent approach from teachers as I have found over the years some focus on it more than others and it can be quite a mixed message as well at times.


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– “Hahaha ummm no These behaviours should be expected”
– “Sounds like kids getting rewarded for contributing to society or being generally decent. You should do those things without being rewarded. Wait till they get in the real world.”
– ” If they get certificates for every little thing then they won’t understand when they don’t get one for something they think is worth the reward.”
– “For me it would depend on a lot of things. If the school has had a lot of trouble with lack of manners, recognising good manners can be the start of a movement towards an improved school culture. A small reward for ‘expected’ behaviours with more prestigious awards for outstanding behaviours can help in that regard.”
– “Maybe a recognition sticker or stamp but not a certificate for those basic common sense/basic manners things.”
-“Hmm i think they sound like being recognised for generally doing things i would expect of my children anyway. I prefer only giving a reward for something that is truly deserving.”
– “Kids need to learn you don’t just get a prize for turning up!!!!”

A good reminder though, “You need to remember while we expect these behaviours not all parents teach them.”

Does your school do them? How do they work?

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  • Oh, I can’t wait for the weather to be nice enough to get out doors once again. Being outside make my kidlet happy!

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  • This is certainly not preparing the child for the real life out there in the real world.
    How about preparing them for losing – a job, an Olympic race, a child?
    It’s about time we were more realistic in the goals instead of trying to create Utopia.

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  • I think children should have rewards for respect, caring and team work, important of all a reward for trying his or her best in a particular activity or subject that may be his or her weakness.

    my son was at the school for 2 years and never got a reward. hes in grade 5. the teacher had to get my son up to achieve a reward. I have spoken to the teacher about not telling the kids infront of everyone how many rewards they have etc as it came to my son he was the only one that did not have anything and it really embarrassed him. 1 week later after I spoke to the teacher about not saying it infront of the class, he got an reward. I wasn’t happy because I didn’t want him to get a reward for the stake of not having any and that I spoke up. teachers likes to play favourites even though they say they don’t, some parents or kids can see it.

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  • In my opinion, kids need (healthy) competition so they will strive to be the best, instead of settling to do the bare minimum. They need to be challenged so they can find their strength and weaknesses.
    People need to set their kids for success, showing them what the real world is like.
    We know are kids are perfect, but they need to understand there are rewards for good behaviour and consequences for bad behaviour, anything in between is life.

    You cant be there for them every step of their life (i know we wish we could)


    • Well said – I agree with your comments. A parent has the most important role of preparing their child for the real world.

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  • Alot of kids these days act entitled, lack respect and seem to be a little lost to what was before them, but parents keep giving giving and giving without having them earn it, hence they have become out of touch and materialistic.. Yet as a parent i want too for my son to have the best of things because other kids can be cruel so fitting in is assisted by with ones possessions these days.

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  • I think there are too many awards given, but if kids aren’t learning good behaviors at home it’s good that someone, anyone is doing what they can to teach manners. Break the cycle.

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  • our school does, we have Pride awards and Learning Awards – pride awards are normally when a student has shown initiative in respecting their peers, or have done something along the pride values and obviously learning awards are for those that have done extra well at something in particular – and to top it off there are extra special awards for outstanding learning I think they are where the students get morning tea with the principal and deputy principal and a certificate – I think rewarding students individually when it is merited is great for a child’s confidence, but if the teachers feel obligated to give one to each student in their class over the course of the year and they have to find a reason to give them one then it doesn’t seem fair. I think if you put in extra hard work you should get recognised for that, not just because it was your month to get an award!

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  • Our school tries to find a reason to give each kid one reward certificate once through the year. This seems to me o be a good middle road.

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  • My kids get so many rewards it is amazing. My middle boy got a bike from school for his outstanding behaviour. They get reward school dollars for showing up to school and for wearing the right clothes and different rewards in class for things. They can go to the school shop and spend their school dollars. While I think sometimes it’s a bit much they do have to ear everything and understand that and in this area there is a high non attendance and these are the kids their trying to get to come. My partner and I both hated school… my kids love school and are upset if I make them stay home when their sick so it does have good points this new way.

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  • I’m from the Netherlands and when I first was confronted with all these rewards I thought it was bizarre ! My son got once a reward for his beautiful smile !! I agree till a certain extend that attention for good behavior is positive and negative behavior should have less attention.

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  • I do not agree with a mercy rule in sport as it is a game and in every game there is a winner and a loser or sometimes a tie. The important skill is to teach children how to win and how lose and how to play games with respect and dignity. Children need resilience.

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  • Kids these days don’t learn how to lose and the idea of making there no competition in sport is absurd. While I think there are many parents that are over- competitive at the sports, children need to learn friendly competition and that sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.

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  • Wouldn’t it depend on the kid as to whether rewards and stuff work or not?

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  • it is nice to thank children for being kins to others such as finding and giving lost property to its rightful owner or the teacher to deal with. Also general courtesy which is sadly missing these days. What happened to “please” and “thank you”? I have also noticed that while parents exepct it of children they don’t say it themselves. When I mentioned this to a relative I was told that kids are expected to do what they are told. Unless the method of teaching in SA schools has changed that’s not what they are told within a month of starting school. Some parents were beginning to think they were losing their rights yet as soon as a kid got into trouble the first question asked by others was “where are the parents?” Some don’t care. Others are “tearing their hair out” becuase they’re not allowed to physically walking out the door when /if they want to.

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