This is exactly why we need to stop asking parents “Oh is he a good baby?”

Many of you would have watched the interview with Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan when they introduced Baby Archie to the world. (You can watch it HERE)

The first questions the new parents were asked included:

“What’s he like?”

“Is he sleeping well?”

“Good baby?”

The Milk Meg has something to say about this and to be honest we have to agree.

Meg writes, “UM….WHAT?! These are the absolutely absurd questions that Meghan and Harry received following the birth of their TWO DAY OLD baby Archie!

“Let’s see… He is literally two days old so he’s like a newborn.

“He cries, eats, poops, pees and likes to be cuddled 24/7.

“He sleeps a lot of the time. He also feeds every couple of hours (or more), wakes when he’s upset for whatever reason and will probably not “sleep well” until he is MUCH older than 2 days! Oh and as to whether or not he’s good? He’s as good as good gets.

“He’s an adorable squishy newborn. He’s good whether or not he sleeps, cries or needs 24/7 cuddles. Because that is parenting at it’s finest.

Meg added, “Congratulations to Meghan and Harry and just F*CK off with those questions OK?!”

Mums agree with the frustration of receiving such crazy questions

Mums also shared their thoughts at the ridiculous questions you receive after the birth of your new baby.

One mum shared, “When people ask me if my baby is “good” I always reply with, “she hasn’t robbed a liquor store yet, but it’s early days”.”

Another wrote, ““Is he a good baby?” No, he’s the anti-Christ here to destroy humanity.”

“I have a 1 month old and I’ve gotten these same stupid questions since day one. I think a lot of people just don’t know how to keep their mouth shut. Like can people not just ask how the new baby/mom is doing and be content? Not what/how are they eating, sleeping, crying…it’s ridiculous and makes me mad! No matter how close you are to new parents you just need to watch what you say”, wrote another.

And another, “When people ask me if my baby is a “good baby” I say “no, he’s the worst” just to get a reaction because it’s such a ridiculous question.”

“I hate being asked this! I usually reply with “she is a normal breastfed baby”. I wish that everyone understood, or at least had an appreciation for normal infant behaviour. Babies aren’t meant to sleep all night, they are supposed to feed frequently, they need lots of love and affection, and they cry to communicate. Why do we find it all so abhorrent?”, said another.

Did you face similar questions as a new parent?

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  • People always ask this – it’s pretty standard

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  • I’ve been asked worst questions people are just asking what they think people expect.

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  • Yes I did but I understand that people are just making small talk really also.

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  • Yes… but I was honest. After 2 weeks, my son screamed 24/7 and I was happy to share that with anyone!!

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  • All babies are good, they are just babies after all. Silly question really.

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  • That’s the norm for all parents – just gloss over like they would know very well how to do and get on with their life.

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  • Congratulations to you both

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  • It is probably one of the least intrusive questions and they were probably happy with a bland question.

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  • I think it’s just people being polite and taking an interest in the new baby. I never got annoyed when people asked me, and personally don’t see the big deal. Just say ‘yes, so far she/he has been amazing’ or whatever and get over it.

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  • Is there any such thing with babies? They ask for what they need by crying. It doesn’t make them good or bad.

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  • That’s refreshing to hear. I was always tempted to day no a horrible baby

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  • These questions don’t ask for an answer in my opinion.
    Same way as the question “how are you doing” is asked When bei g served in the shop. A true and honest answer is often not expected.

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  • I definitely agree with these questions its so silly to ask such questions and expect any other answer.

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  • So many fantastic replies here. Not good having a baby screaming because he/she is in pain. For this reason I approve of dummies because the more they cry the more air they gasp in which causes more pain. You can gradually decrease the use of the dummy when you are ready.

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  • Its the first question I was asked when my Daughter was born “Does she sleeps well? os she wakes you up all night” It was asked by my mother -in-law as she was in another country when my daughter was born, when I told her that she awakes at night frequently then my mother-in-law said to me dont let her sleep at day time, I was really annoyed with her suggestion because how I could stop a new born child from sleeping???

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