The number of children you choose to have is really no one else’s business – so why should you have to justify it?
It seems like the moment you’ve had your first child, people are already asking about when you’ll be having your second. For a lot of people, this question is mildly frustrating, but if you don’t plan on having anymore children, it can just be downright rude.
The Dreaded Question
Jen Schwartz from MotherhoodUnderstood shared a post about her experience of being a mum of one on popular Instagram page Hello My Tribe. Having always planned to have one child, Jen was subject to invasive questions about her plans for the future, only adding to the difficulty she faced battling with postpartum depression. “If you were to ask me when I knew I was done having kids, I would tell you – I knew I was done the day after I brought my son home from the hospital, the day when postpartum depression hit me like a category 1 hurricane.” Despite increasing awareness around PPD, for many women, its effects are so severe that they opt not to have any more children.
Already Created A Masterpiece
Sick of justifying her decision, Jen’s encounter with a friendly stranger was just the refreshing perspective she needed. Whilst having a mani pedi, Jen found herself talking to the woman beside her, who upon hearing that she had one son, asked her if she was having another. When Jen said it wasn’t in her plan, the women’s response was unexpected. “She replied that she only had one son too and said ‘sometimes when you create a masterpiece, it doesn’t make sense to paint another.”
We love this story – at the end of the day, when it comes to how many children you have, the only person that has to be happy with the number is you and your partner.
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