Sometimes I wish I wasn’t a mum. - Real Mum story on MoM

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First of all, thanks for this section on your site. I love reading stories from other mums because it’s good to hear that others are in the same boat as me. I don’t really have a scary birth story or any near death experiences but to be honest, I sometimes worry there is something wrong with me.

The bottom line is that sometimes I really struggle to find one thing enjoyable about being a wife and mother. I didn’t really used to be like this when my kids were small but it seems the older they get, the busier I get and I find I lose my temper easily and completely lost the plot! I always thought as the kids got older, it would be easier – they would help out around the house, we’d sit and chat and I’d start getting more sleep.

The trouble is that when the kids started getting older, I started thinking I could fit more in so I got a part-time job (which is actually more than part time). Of course I wanted to make sure my kids didn’t miss out so now I spend my life juggling, stressing and running from one thing to the next.

Some days I just wish for the days when I could sit on the couch and watch TV. Hell, some days I just wish all I had to do was the ironing. And some days I long for those long afternoons between the lunchtime nap and night time bedtime where I actually wondered how we would fill in the time!

I don’t think I’m a pioneer – most of my friends seem to be busy too. I just think they cope with it better than me. Maybe they don’t really but I feel like they all do. I don’t think I’ve shouted so much in my life than I do now. So I think I’m at the point where I need to ask for help. Although so much of me feels as though that will make me a ‘failure’. I guess I need to move beyond trying to manage this myself and actually find someone who understands. I guess I’m worried they’ll whack me on drugs and I’ll become some loony lady who picks up the kids in her pjs …

OK I’m going to do it. A happy mum is a good mum right? I’ll report back soon and let you know how it’s all going. Thanks for just listening (sometimes it’s good to know someone is listening/reading without judging).

Posted by NicNacNoo, 20th February 2013

13 Comments

- - june11 said
  - 16 Jul 2016
    8:57 pm
I would never wish all I had to do was the ironing. Not my favourite chore. Some things can be dried on coathangers and reduce the need for ironing. Shake the creases out before you hang them on the line.
If you dry your washing in a clothes dryer some have a wrinkle free setting. Remove the clothes from the dryer while still warm and shake them to loosen creases if there is any.

- - mom81879 said
  - 06 Nov 2015
    3:54 pm
The only times I’ve wished I didn’t have kids is when I think I’ve done wrong by them, and that’s mostly my fault. I hate to think I’ve hurt them so sometimes I think I shouldn’t have them

- - mom103936 said
  - 07 Oct 2015
    2:15 pm
I hope things have improved. Please keep us posted.

- - dannsbuild said
  - 26 Sep 2015
    3:06 pm
Thank you for sharing. Very interesting!

- - mom81879 said
  - 20 Sep 2015
    1:22 pm
I don’t have kids at home and still I wish for some me time. With hubby, our dogs, a house to look after, friends, family, work……it’s very rare that I just sit on the couch and do as I please 0:(

- - mom94125 said
  - 16 Jun 2015
    4:06 pm
yes sometimes we get so stressed and kids get more of a handful as they get older.

- - mom113055 said
  - 16 Jun 2015
    4:02 pm
looking absouletly awesome

- - nictate said
  - 24 Apr 2015
    1:10 pm
Being a mum can be a struggle.
Some seem to cope better than others. Everything you to stress me out. Turns out I have anxiety. I got some medication and I cope much better with life.
I hope you are doing ok.

- - mom57522 said
  - 30 Aug 2014
    6:47 pm
Some days I don’t want to get out of bed!
- mom57522 replied
  
  11 Jan 2015 , 11:02 pm
  This story has been posted twice?
- - mom61718 said
  - 31 May 2014
    5:18 pm
Chin up.. Hope its getting better!! I can completely relate to your story.. Keep us posted how you going…
Some times I’m on pills… But its way ever makes you a better stronger mother !!! you’ll do ways best for you..

- - aussiemum said
  - 05 Apr 2014
    10:27 am
Oh please let us know how you go. I can SO relate to your story. I feel like I’m running from the minute I get up in the morning to the moment I go to bed and the only way I communicate with my kids is several decibels louder than it should be. It feels like I’m on a hampster wheel a lot of the time, but I’m looking forward to the school holidays. I’m determined not to work and let the house go to wreck and ruin so I can spend some quality time with my kids. Good luck.

- - jodie80 said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    8:40 pm
just being a mum is a struggle some days