Mum’s groups are meant to be a source of friendship and support, but what happens when they turn sour online?

The rise of the Facebook mothers’ group has seen the creation of a safe space where mum’s can come together to ask advice, share opinions and help each other out. As with anything online, however, there is always the potential for a few keyboard warriors to ruin everyone’s fun. As The Daily Mail reports, bullying in these groups is rife, revealing the dark side of these online communities.

A Sinister Side

Many major brands, including Kmart, Target and Big W, have a mum’s group created around them, sharing handy product hacks and helpful tips for making the most of what’s on offer. You would think that a few mums talking about a brand or store that they love would be innocent enough, but it turns out there’s a sinister side to the whole thing. Some mums have complained about ‘God-mins’ who kick members off the pages without reason or warning. Others have faced serious threats, with one mum told by a page administrator that her sons photo would be sent to a paedophile group. It really makes you wonder what kind of sick, twisted people are sitting behind those computer screens…

Constant Bullying

Many members of the online groups have said that bullying is a very real issue, with the page admins often ‘complete bullies’ themselves. “Never have I known such pettiness as what the admin of that group are capable of,” one mum said referring to an incident on a Kmart mums page. We think the whole thing is so disappointing. It tarnishes the very definition of what a mum’s group is supposed to be, made worse by the anonymity provide by technology and the internet.

We think heading down to your local cafe with a couple of other mums and chatting in person is the way to go – you’re very unlikely to have a faceless admin kick you out or threaten your child there!


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Have you ever experienced bullying in an online mum’s group? Let us know in the comments.

 


  • That’s disappointing. I’ve noticed undercurrents…..things definitely get lost in translation online when you can’t see a face but to have outright bullying, not on.

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  • There is just no need for such behaviour!

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  • I just avoid. Lurk for a while, and if they look horrible, leave.

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  • If they turn sour then log off. The easiest way to stop problems, fighting and trolls is to log off!


    • I agree – time is too precious to waste on negative and unkind people.

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  • Thankfully I belong to groups that are supportive!

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  • As with everything a few mean/ outspoken people ruinnit for everyone. I think online groups are great but it is so hard to avoid bully behaviour.

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  • No, I haven’t had negative experiences.
    At the moment I’m a member of an online T21 Mums groups and it’s the best !!

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  • I actually suffered anxiety every time I got a msg saying that someone had responded to my post! I was waiting for some form of abuse, or even just things that came across that way whether it was intended or not. The best thing I did was quit all the mums forums! Even now I sometimes get a little when someone responds to something I say, if I don’t know/recognise their names. My advice…. don’t sign up to forums

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  • Mum’s groups can be horrible places. I was shamed when I couldn’t breastfeed anymore. I was devastated and turned to them for support, but instead I was shamed and told to keep trying, and I wasn’t trying hard enough etc. I was Trying so hard as I had planned to feed him for longer, but he was essentially starving and in the end I had to put him on formula. Surprise, surprise he thrived. I can now see that a fed baby is best, but being a vulnerable first time mum, I was confused and felt I must be doing something wrong. They can be a really bad place

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  • I haven’t experienced it or see it but I’ve heard of it. Absolutely no excuse for judging and being nasty.

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  • Pretty much all online mums groups dissolve into judgy bickering and name calling. The best ones have good moderators who boot out nastiness and encourage mums supporting each other.

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