The pregnant mum says she frequently left her five year old son home alone…until she got caught!

A soon to be mum-of-two has shared a controversial post on Reddit, admitting that she has no issue leaving her five year old son home alone while she goes food shopping. The mum said that she finds it difficult to get her son organised to go out, especially while pregnant, and has taken to leaving him by himself for up to an hour at a time.

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The mum admitted that she didn’t tell her fiance that she was leaving their son alone. “I usually leave him home behind my fiance’s back (no judgment please!)” she wrote. On the particular day in question, the mum admits she wanted to stop by the shops to buy lunch at her favourite cafe. “Since I’m pregnant I was craving this specific place in the mall,” she said. “My son’s lunch was in the oven and I figured that by the time it was ready, I’d be home…My son is potty trained and just plays games on his iPad/watches TV.” While she was out, her fiance returned home early from work to discover their son alone in the house with the oven on, prompting him to send her a strongly worded text…

A Difference Of Opinion

After receiving a string of angry messages from her fiance, the mum said she believed he was overreacting. “I feel degraded and belittled over nothing,” she said. “A 5 year old is perfectly capable of fending for himself for an hour. I’m honestly about to pack my bags and never let my son see his father again as well as when this baby is born. I would rather be single than spoken to this way.”

We’re pretty sure the wrong parent is playing the victim here – we’d be absolutely furious if we discovered that our other half had left a five year old at home while they went to pick up lunch! Pregnancy isn’t easy, and finding time to get everything done with children is tow is always a challenge, but leaving your child at home alone with the oven on is completely unacceptable! This mum needs to sort out her priorities…

What age do you think children can be left home alone? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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  • I can’t think of anything that would make this right. 5 is too young


  • Oh my goodness. That is terrible. It would have been the perfect time before her new baby comes along to have some special time with him. Take him with you shopping, talk about what your buying and what you’ll cook with it. Enjoy the cafe with him!


  • All I can think of is this poor poor little boy. He’s already being abandoned at home! Someone please talk to him, play with him, love him!


  • This woman is not all upstairs. There is no way in hell I would leave my five year old alone whether they are well behaved or not. It can be potentially dangerous and it is also neglect. And the lack of communication with her fiancée, there are so many issues to be dealt with here.


  • Is she stupid really putting her self first before the child disgusting my daughter is 9 nine and still won’t leave her in the house beherself


  • I’m sorry but this is so wrong. I’d never leave a child alone until they were at least 8 and that would only be to go next door. And definitely not with the oven on. I’m sorry but she needs to accept that what she did was wrong and never do it again or she may lose the children, not her fiancé.


  • WOW! Lack of parental responsibility. It is not okay. You should not place that responsibility on a 5 year old. What if something went wrong? What if a fire started? A 5 year old would not necessarily know what to do, nor should they. You are the parent, and your role and responsibility is to care for your child and keep them safe.


  • This is unacceptable. I don’t particularly like taking my kids shopping but if I need to I do and I deal with it. You can’t leave them for an hour at that age!


  • We left our daughter at home by herself when she was 12. We went through everything she was allowed to do and not to do. We explained how to contact neighbours, us and the police etc. We went out for half an hour.


  • This is just terrible. You can not leave a 5 year old home alone!


  • She is definitely on the wrong. The 5 year old and unborn baby should be handed over to the father.
    Numerous of things could of gone wrong with leaving the 5 year by himself.
    Regardless how mature the child is, I would be feeling sick in my stomach if I ever left my kids home without adult supervision.
    I think once they hit 15 /16 then leaving the home shouldn’t be a problem. They are old enough to know safety hazards, triple 0 if needed, and stranger danger. And certainly know how to cook and prepare their own meals.


  • Wow, just wow. A 5 year old is old enough to fend for them self for an hour. Is this mother off her nana? I know that each child is different etc. but I only recently started to leave my son who is almost 14 and my daughter who is 12 so I could run to the deli to buy hams for sandwiches and the return trip is no longer than 1 hour but I’m still worried about what if some sort of emergency happens will they know what to do, what if I have a car accident on the way to or from the deli and can’t ring them to tell them, would they know to try ringing me or their grandparents? I suppose you have to not have a worry in the world to leave a 5 year old home alone and with an oven left on. Unbelievable!


  • Wow, this mother is definitely in the wrong. Sounds like she is just too lazy to take her 5 year old with her. My 12 year old stays home now and then and she isn’t allowed to cook or use any appliances other than the tv until I get home.


  • My oldest child was 11 when I left him by himself for about 1 hour and the youngest was 12 because he wasn’t as responsible as the oldest. Now they are 14 and 17 and are quite responsible. All though the 14 year old wouldn’t have a clue how to cook a meal for himself. Where the 17 has had lots of experience. I would NEVER leave a 5 year old on their own. No way at all.


  • Psychologists recommend no child be left unattended until at least 12 years old because they cannot make a decision if something goes wrong. What happens if a stranger knocks on the door? What happens if there is suddenly a fire or any other emergency? This mother is off her tree thinking a 5 year old is safe and should be charged with neglect, I am on the father’s side on this one.


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