It’s news you normally can’t wait to share, but this mum has chosen to keep it from one very important person…
A mum-to-be has taken to parenting forum Mumsnet to ask if she is being unreasonable by keeping her pregnancy news from her in laws. While she is only 8 weeks into the pregnancy, the mum says she has never had the best relationship with her husband’s parents anyway and is enjoying keeping the news all to herself.
Never Seen Eye-To-Eye
The mum-to-be said that past experiences have contributed to her decision. “His parents annoy me at the best of times,” she said. “I’ve never particularly seen eye-to-eye with his mum as she has caused so many arguments between DH and I over the years. They are very self-centred and I don’t agree with their lifestyle. I am enjoying my pregnancy so much and am really enjoying the fact that it’s only us and my parents that know.” In describing her mother-in-law, the mum said that she is known for excessive drinking, being extremely manipulative and acting in her own self interest. “Luckily DH has now seen what she is like and we no longer argue and we tend to spend most of our time with my side of the family as a result,” she said.
A Difference Of Opinion
Despite her husband acknowledging his mother’s difficult personality, the mum-to-be said that her decision to keep the pregnancy from his parents has caused a rift between them. “I am 8 weeks so would like to hold off until our first scan to tell his parents but he is insisting that we tell them this week as we won’t see them again until the end of January (they live 2.5 hours away).” She went on to say that the decision to tell her parents first had been mutual and her feelings about announcing the pregnancy to his family were more than justified. “My intentions are not to deprive him of this experience, my concerns are with the mother-in-law.”
While we think that no one should be made to announce their pregnancy until they feel ready, we think this mum has been a little insensitive to her husband’s feelings. Even though she has a difficult relationship with her in-laws, they are still her husband’s parents and asking him to keep the news a secret when her parents already know is not entirely fair. We only hope they work it out so that they can enjoy the pregnancy without lingering family issues…
Did you keep your pregnancy a secret from particular family members? Tell us in the comments!