A new study says that poking fun at your partner can increase relationship satisfaction and longevity.

We all know that having a good sense of humour is one of the most sought after traits when looking for a potential partner, but it turns out it could be more important than first thought. Researchers from Appalachian State University found that couples who can roast each other have the happiest relationships – so long as they don’t take it too far!

All About Compatibility

Professor Geoffrey Hall from the University of Kansas reviewed the findings of the study, saying that they highlighted the importance of humour in sustaining romantic relationships. Professor Hall was quick to point out that the ‘humour’ the study refers to is not how funny the individuals in a relationship are independently of one another, but rather the humour they create together – basically, inside jokes are key to a healthy relationship! “Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humour, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you,” Professor Hall said. ‘It’s not that any style or a sense of humour is any better or worse. What matters is that you both see quirky humour as hysterical. If you share a sense of what’s funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter.”

What You Love Most

The study showed that it’s important for couples to be able to have a laugh at each others expense, without either person getting offended. “If you think your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it’s likely that you’ve seen that first-hand in your relationship,” Professor Hall said.

So if you think that Blake and Ryan have the perfect marriage, or John and Chrissy are couple goals, this study may have uncovered their secret!

Do you and your partner have a compatible sense of humour? Let us know in the comments!

  • I think we both have fantastic senses of humour, mostly compatible. We are always laughing with and at one another, it’s a new thing for us. Life might have been easier in the early years if we had laughed more


  • Over a decade of poking fun at each other … definitely helps when times are tough.


  • My husband and I are right then. We constantly pick on each other.


  • Looks like we are in for the long haul! It’s banter central in my household.


  • Looks like we are set for a long and happy marriage. :)


  • I know a couple who both have a very warped sense of humour, one telling the other that you have to be smart and clever to break a bone.


  • Yes we do. We laugh and tease. There is a lot of humour in our house. Our son has grown up with it and is now shares the funny and humorous behaviour with us and participates, bringing his own!


  • Totally agree. Light hearted fun and laughter keeps things interesting


  • Light hearted banter is OK – just don’t take it to extremes


  • Mot sure about this. Humour is one thing, but making fun of the love of your life…Not for me.


  • Alls fair in love and war.
    Hubby and I are always making fun of each other


  • pity it doesn’t stay that way


  • I agree with the article,a good sense of humour is important!


  • This article is reassuring. My husband and I often take the mickey out of each other and laugh it off. It’s all in good fun and neither of us get offended.


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