Mum shares why she refuses to buy her kids any birthday or Christmas presents – even though she can afford to.

Mum-of-two Kim Palmer’, 39, from Sevenoaks made the decision not to gift her four-year-son Louis ANY presents at Christmas to teach him the true meaning of the festive season – and hopefully avoid him becoming spoilt.

She’s never even bought him a birthday present and said she intends to continue the tradition for her eight-month-old little boy Kingsley.

She explains to The Sun, “My worst fear was my children growing up to be spoilt. So when my four-year-old son was born, I told my husband Simon, 38, that I wanted our children to grow up feeling grateful for everything that they’re given.

“I decided that I wouldn’t buy my children gifts at Christmas.

“Our finances have no part to play in our decision. My husband is a teacher, and I am a strategy director and CEO of a wellness brand for women called Clementine, so we would have no issue with buying our sons lots of extravagant Christmas presents if we chose to do so.”

She added, “Christmas shouldn’t be all about the presents. I want to teach my children the value of money, and raise them to appreciate all they are given. I feel that less is more, especially at this time of the year.

“Don’t get me wrong, I love Christmas – and our son loves it too!

“My four-year-old has just started to understand Christmas and how it all works; of course, he believes in Santa.

“Christmas will be very special for us this year, as it will be our eight-month-old’s first Christmas.”

The mum shared that she does allow family to buy her children gifts still.

“I don’t have any problems with relatives buying our sons gifts. My husband has a very large family and my parents send them special presents over from New Zealand, so they’ll never be short of presents to open on Christmas Day.

“After all, we want them to have the real Christmas experience.

“However, we do try to advise our relatives to gift our boys things that they need, and fewer things that they want.”

“We will decorate our house with twinkling lights and make sure our children have the best day. The only difference is, they won’t receive any presents from us.

“However, we do try to advise our relatives to gift our boys things that they need, and fewer things that they want.”

It’s just a choice!

“It’s a choice we’ve made purely on the way we want to raise our children. It’s the same with birthdays.

“I have never bought my four-year-old a birthday gift. These “special” occasions all become a bit too much.”

“Instead we try to focus on having experiences together and making memories as a family, rather than making it all about the material things.

“However, this is proving to be harder as they grow up. Kids are growing up in a world that over-stimulates them.

“Handing them gifts on a plate doesn’t help to grow their curious minds, teach them the value of money or show them the true meaning of Christmas.”

Do you agree with this mums logic?

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  • I see her logic .. I kinda understand what she is trying to do … but how sad she doesn’t get to experience the joy of giving her sons something they really want .. and see those little faces light up. I feel she could still teach them the true meaning but still get them a little something .. maybe ? But each to their own I suppose

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  • I think she has gone to the other extreme.

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  • Just because you give a child a gift doesn’t mean they will be spoilt, its all about how you educate them overall.

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  • This is her decision but I can’t do Christmas or Birthday’s without giving a gift to my children. We are all different and have different ideas. She isn’t dismissing those special days which is a good thing.

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  • Each to their own, but you can still buy parents and acknowledge occasions and teach your child about the gift of giving and receiving. Simply she is making her children different and once they go to school this will prove much harder for her to explain, I believe. My son is an only child. He received gifts from many, he is even spoilt, but we also teach him how to be considerate of others, we donate a lot of money to various charities, and at Christmas time we put many gifts under the KMart tree.

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  • I get where she’s coming from it sounds like there’s lots of presents from other family members. I don’t think my kids are that appreciative of all they’re given. So much doesn’t get played with.

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  • Really? Christmas is the gift of giving. God gave his only son. The three wise men bought gifts for Jesus upon his birth to Mary and David. I believe in Children being taught to be grateful. If you don’t want your children spoilt by spending money, make them gifts, don’t just give nothing. This mother has misconstrued the true meaning of Christmas and Birthdays

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  • Nothing wrong with this mum decision, each to their own.

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  • When I saw the headline thought it was her religious beliefs was stopping her. Each to their own what they do. Wondering what happens when her child attends other children’s birthday parties? So does that mean a small present for Father’s day and mother’s day are also not given?


    • Maybe her child doesn’t go to other childrens’ birthday parties. Does Santa bring her child just one present? That is what Santa is about. We didn’t get lots of Christmas presents like kids do now but we got were practical and special. I remember one year my “special” present was a fancy new dress because I couldn’t fit into my dresses from the previous Summer. The rest my Mum made…..a lot cheaper than could be bought for “basic” dresses, skirts, peasant blouses etc. I loved my peasant blouses. Mum made some of them from plain material and did a pattern at the neckline on her sewing machine. To me they were really special. Other kids looked down on me but I didn’t care. I just thought their Mums could possibly have made them something special in some cases. The cost of fabric and patterns now, unless you are going to make at least 3 it is often cheaper to buy some.



      • I concur with the thoughts. I believe the point is how does the mother address the child’s friends and their birthday’s and party if invited. Puts a child in an incredibly difficult position through no choice of their own. Do they get alienated and simply not invited? It may not be the case, but, it’s human nature.

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  • Great idea, they can put the money away for the future, I know I would have been grateful if my parents had put the money aside for me instead. Looks like they will be getting heaps of presents anyway so they are not actually missing out.

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  • I bet this mum got presents when she was a girl. Had the magic of Santa.
    Parents and their BIG statements where their kids miss out.

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  • Good on her for teaching kids the true meaning of Christmas.and they will definitely be spoilt .ask me lol

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  • Nothing wrong with that. Think it’s good to teach our kids gratitude. The focus on having experiences together and making memories as a family is good, rather than making it all about the material things. The gift of love and attention is the best and most valuable gift you can give.

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  • Sounds a good way to cop out to me.

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  • everyone else can buy for her children but not the parents?? That seems to suck to me, you could still get them something special without spoiling them. My kids only really get Christmas and birthday and Easter to be spoiled we don’t have the finances to do it year round


    • I agree – something special does not mean it costs a fortune.

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