I agree that the wording is very important.
I know an adult male that is always upsetting people and then when he apologises he never takes ownership for what he has said and will say “Im sorry that what I said upset you”….uumm….thats not an apology.

Makes sense indeed ! As adults we should give the right example.

Very true. Adults should model the behaviour we want to see in our kids. Pretty common sense but unfortunately not always followed. I do think apologising for raising your voice is a bit far but apologising if you were not respectful or let your emotions escalate would be ok and shows them that adults aren’t perfect either and it takes practice.

I say sorry to y daughter when the need arises and I find so does she.

I am more than happy to apologise to my child when I’m in the wrong, however I wouldn’t apologise for raising my voice as I usually only do this to get my child’s attention when I’ve already asked multiple times for something and I’m getting frustrated. In all honesty if this is the case, they are the ones that have caused the voice raising by not doing as they’re told. Some of the above seems very wishy washy to me.

There has been situations with my son where I have apologised and said sorry to him when I felt it was warranted.

If your child does something to warrant being yelled at, I think its more important to sit them down and calmly explain why they got yelled at. If you just lost your temper over nothing, then yes you should apologise. If you asked them 20 times to stop following the dog around and poking him in the eye and they don’t stop then you may just have to raise your voice. You don’t need to apologise just for being a parent.

So true !

This is definitely something to think about. The “but” is a big thing too!

I think this is great! Definitely shows the kids another side to you and that we aren’t always one sided

Yep…there are times when everyone needs to say sorry.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 01 May 2018 , 6:16 am

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  Teaching children to apologise and to forgive and to be children that have empathy is such an incredible gift for them.

I apologise/say sorry when I need to. You can’t expect kids to do it if you don’t model it yourself.

Yes, I agree. If I do something wrong, I always say I’m sorry to my daughter. And no “but”.