The disappointed mum says she’s annoyed that her husband invited his parents without consulting her first.

An upset mum has posted on popular parenting forum Mumsnet after her husband invited his parents on their anniversary trip. Doubling as a family holiday with their two children, the mum said she was excited for some quality time with her husband and kids until he made the surprise announcement…

Six Is A Crowd

The mum said she was over the moon when her husband surprised her with the trip but that quickly changed when he announced his parents would be joining them. “Husband told me tonight that he’s booked our dream trip as a surprise to me,” she said. “I was ecstatic! So happy, so excited and so looking forward to it. I could have burst with happiness. He then tells me he’s also invited his parents along with us and they’re booked and staying with us. He booked it with them a few days ago.” We can completely understand this mum’s disappointment – travelling with your husband and kids is one thing, but adding in laws into the mix can be a totally different experience!

Just Needed To Ask

The mum says it’s not that her in laws are coming on the trip, but that she wasn’t asked before the decision was made. She says her husband was less than impressed with her reaction. “He started getting really defensive and talking about how much they do for us and love the kids and they’ll be able to help them whilst we are away,” she said. The situation took a turn for the worst when her husband packed his bags and went to stay with his parents following the argument. “He said I’m selfish, spoilt, ungrateful and a cow. I’m prepared to be told I’ve been terribly unreasonable, but I was just so desperately longing for some time as a family, no phones, no work, no one else – just us. Have I been awful? Should I have just faked a smile and accepted it?”

The lesson to take away? Surprise holidays are always a good idea, so long as it is the destination that is the surprise and not the company!

Do you think this mum’s reaction was over the top? Let us know in the comments!


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  • I would be so angry I’d probably ignore him until the children were sound asleep, then let him know your feelings without upsetting them. Hopefully the in-laws will mind the children – away from your immediate surroundings – so you and your husband can have some “anniversary fun”.
    Why didn’t he ask either yours or his parents to have them for a few days at their own houses…..unless they live in a retirement village. Some of them have very strict rules. Would you trust your in-laws (or your parents) to mind the kids at your house if necessary?


  • Think I can see a divorce coming up and soon.


  • This is so wrong. It was meant to be an anniversary trip. Why not tell him they need to invite her parents as well and he has to pay for them too. That way the inlaws can entertain themselves.


  • This happened to my sister. Needless to say, they are now divorced!


  • It was supposed to be an anniversary trip. Don’t invite your parents!


  • Nooooooooooo! I think it’s the husband who has the problem. In fact, he was so selfish and threw a tantrum by leaving after the argument. Selfishly, he invited them for all they do to help, but could also look after the kids while they were away. WIN WIN only for him I think! What a top bloke… NOT!


  • I don’t think the in laws need come along on a special anniversary holiday. The kids are one thing but seriously the in laws could tag along another time and also I believe the mum should have been part of the discussion as to who was coming along on the holiday, it is disrespectful and dishonest to not involve her.


  • Oh dear, you would have thought he would have discussed this before the holiday, to see if it’s OK with his wife and I guess, to explain why he wanted them to go too.


  • my husband does stupid stuff like this all the time, it will be the reason we divorce


  • Holidays need to be discussed and agreed to – it is family downtime.


  • I would like it to be discussed first before any plans are in place!!!

    • Absolutely! A marriage is about respect and communication!


  • I would be upset too about this. The only thing worse would be the in laws turning up at the holiday place without her knowing.


  • While I wouldn’t mind them coming, I would want to know about it and not be surprised by it.


  • My husband would 100% do this and wouldn’t understand why I was shitty about it.


  • We travel with our inlaws quite a bit but I much prefer being just our family. It gives us time to recharge together and is much needed in this busy day and age.


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