Her husband only admitted to having a vasectomy after she had endured three years of fertility treatments…

A devastated woman has posted on Reddit after discovering her husband has had a secret vasectomy The Daily Mail reports. The woman said that she was heartbroken after three years of traumatic fertility treatment was unsuccessful, and blamed her PCOS, until her husband finally told her the truth.

A Betrayal Of Trust

The woman says that the news came as a total shock. “After three years of painful, invasive and expensive fertility treatment, I find out my husband had a vasectomy before we met,” she wrote. “He let me endure 29 negative pregnancy tests and numerous hormone injections and he never thought to tell me.” She says her husband chose to have the procedure to prevent his ex-wife from getting pregnant as he wanted to leave the relationship. “I’ve laid out the options: he gets it reversed, he agrees to me using donor sperm or we get a divorce,” she wrote. “I love him. But I’m broken. And given his lies, I think we are better off not married.” We think that if nothing else, this couple has lost all trust…

Selfish And Thoughtless

Comments on the post said that the woman was right to consider leaving her husband. “This guy is straight up TRASH,” one wrote. “Certified absolute garbage. How do you let someone you supposedly love go through all that?” “I hope she leaves him. This is unbelievable.” said another. “A lot of people I know with PCOS are already very stressed about their chances of being able to conceive and his a**hole made it worse for his wife.”

This husband sounds like he has serious commitment issues! We can only hope that he comes to his senses and decides to be supportive of his wife or has the courage to admit he doesn’t want children whatever the consequences may be.

How would you feel about your husband having a secret vasectomy? Let us know in the comments.


  • That is disgusting! You need trust and honesty in a relationship. Why would he let her suffer like this? That’s not love!

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  • He should’ve been up front from the beginning, when it got serious at least. I wonder what made him finally admit it. I do wonder why his sperm wasn’t tested though, I thought it was standard after a certain amount of time not conceiving and figuring out different options. Betrayal like that though can ruin a relationship for life; poor woman. :(

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  • Being betrayed, lied to, disrespected – hell no, time to say see you later.

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  • I would be absolutely shattered and devastated. Going through fertility treatments is harrowing, emotional and devastating in itself. To do so with your husband, then finding out he’d lied… I think that would be the end of it for me. The betrayal – I don’t think I could recover from that.

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  • I’m not sure I understand why a man would put his wife through this. Physically, emotionally and financially. This story just can’t be true!

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  • Mmmm sounds like a dodgy story. He would have been tested too. If it is true, it’s an awful position for her to be in. If she leaves him, she would probably feel that she has wasted so much time with him and then runs the risk of not finding another relationship where her partner wants children or she may experience other fertility problems.

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  • Why didn’t he just man up in the beginning and tell her he’d had a vasectomy. And why didn’t the doctors check him before she started IVF. Before we were allowed to start IVF they checked myself and my husband to see if there was a medical problem. Surely that would have shown up in the tests if it was done. I don’t see how she could trust him after this. What else has he lied about.


    • Good point. The story sounds very odd to be honest.

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  • That’s a huge betrayal of trust. I don’t think a marriage could survive that.

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  • How sad for this woman, I feel for her. I would definitely end her marriage if I were her and not waste anymore time of my life with him.

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  • Wow, what a complete looser. Certainly no trust in this relationship. She should get out now.

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  • I would divorce him, I had fertility problems for 4 and a half years and 4 of those I had to convince my hubby to get tested because after all my problems had been fixed it still wasn’t happening, we were one step away from IVF when we got lucky

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  • I don’t know how this is true because they usually test the man at the start of IVF? I wouldnt be staying with someone if they did this to me!

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  • He couldn’t just accidentally not tell his wife about the vasectomy. Why didn’t the Specialist ask for sperm samples before he let her think IVF as an option. I would be furious. I would be concerned what else he is “hiding” from her and what lies he has told her, It would destroy me and kill my faith in him.

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  • Poor thing!

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  • He put her through 3 years of fertility treatment what a piece of work. I don’t think I would be able forgive the dishonesty on top of invasive treatment that was never going to work. I have to wonder why the husbands sperm was never tested as part of the fertility treatment doesn’t make sense

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