A pregnant mum has shared her story on online explaining why she won’t tell hubby when baby number two is booked in for delivery via c-section.

The mum shares on Mumsnet, “For background, [I] went into spontaneous labour with DS1 (dear son 1) and MIL (mother-in-law) (despite multiple previous conversations) ignored my request to stay away from hospital and visit when home.”

“She continually interrupted my labour for updates from DH and he didn’t have the backbone to tell her to go home,” she says.

The expectant mother has confessed she isn’t telling her husband the exact due date of baby number two to avoid her mother-in-law finding out about it.

She says she can’t trust her husband not to “blab” to his mum and she wants to avoid a repeat of what happened when she gave birth to their first child.

She says she plans to tell her husband about the birth the day of the c-section and understands this will make it difficult for him to get time off work.

“I plan to tell him the morning I go into hospital – he will just have to cancel work for two weeks (just as if I went into natural labour) and take his phone off him too – to avoid MIL being told, and give me the peace, respect and joy that I want (and feel I deserve) for what may be my last birth experience.”

Most followers on the forum feel she is actually making a mistake by not informing her husband of the due date.

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DO you think she is doing the wrong thing? What would you do? Share your comments below


  • This is a hard one as it’s really a mother in law issue. She’ll have her time and this is the parents place and time. But easier said then done.
    The fathers need to take control here and have the information and explain how it will be to their mothers. Instead of putting daughters in law in the position of villain. Ridiculous.

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  • I’ve had the MIL from hell so I completely understand why she is doing it, but it must be incredibly stressful for her and put a strain on her relationship

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  • So glad I don’t have a MIL like that and a partner who is supportive of my choices!

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  • The MIL needs to back off so you can enjoy the birth together without any interference. It’s totally understandable where you’re coming from and, hopefully her husband will understand as well. Just remember if your husband is unable to get the time off then you won’t be able to complain about that. I’m sure your MIL will forgive you in the end.

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  • You poor thing. Who needs the added stress of this. And I can’t believe her husband doesn’t have her back and would share this info. Not a great start.

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  • Given the situation, actually I think she is doing the RIGHT thing.

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  • I can understand this but a bit sad hubby can’t be trusted to keep a secret. I imagine he may be hurt by this and she might stab herself in the foot if his work want to be difficult

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  • It is extraordinary the lengths people go to. Her MIL should be ashamed.

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  • No nothing wrong with that, her body her choice and most important for mum to be to be comfortable and not stressed.

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  • I can understand she doesn’t want MIL on top of her, I wouldn’t like that either lol.

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  • Wow crazy! It’s a shame she feels that way but I do understand!

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  • I can understand how she feels and it’s her choice

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  • He should know but I always understand how awful it must be to worry about unwanted visitors.

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  • If he can’t grow a pair and tell his mum to bugger off then he doesn’t deserve to know the date. The hospital staff were brilliant at keeping unwanted guests away for me.

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  • Nope it’s wrong. He’s your husband.. the father of your child.
    I went through this with my ex mil. Even the day I gave birth to my son knowing he had already passed away. She still showed up!
    The easiest way around it is to tell the nurses to visitors. If mil doesn’t know your room number she can’t visit

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