Mum asks if it is wise to hire a teenage boy to babysit her young girls.

Mum shares, “We are thinking of getting a babysitter for our kids (girls aged 5 & 7) for this Saturday night. We don’t often get a babysitter so not that experienced with picking one.

“When I put a post up on one of the babysitting groups, I got a reply from a teenage boy who lives close by and was keen to babysit.

“He got quite a few recommendations but I just feel a bit weird and uncomfortable having a young boy look after my little girls.

“Am I being completely old-fashioned and silly? Would you use a male babysitter for your kids?”

Mums share their concerns

One mum said it was just totally sexist to feel that way, “Of course I would. Sexist much? Girls hurt children too. Its not a male specialty you know. I honest to god cant even believe i read that question in this day and age.”

“Of course I would! But I wouldn’t trust anyone with my kids without meeting them, and having them meet my kids first.”

“Way to be sexist.”

“This kind of thinking really boils my p!ss. We all fight for equality within our world and this type of thinking drags us back down.”

“You know what? I find males better than females to look after my kids! They are just more fun and down to earth. I wouldn’t be worried. Meet him first and call some references. You might find he is a great fit to your family”

“This makes me annoyed. Why wld a teenage boy be any different to a teenage girl? Boys are sweet, sensitive, caring and my 14yr old is a great babysitter. Poor kid…”

“This saddens me as a mother with only sons. I hate that because some men do the wrong thing that we as a society now judge most men with the same questions. At the end of the day gender does not define if someone is a good, responsible human or not. That comes down to them as an individual, who they associate with and how they behave. I had a horrible female babysitter when I was a kid. She was nasty as. But the male who babysat was always great fun and would take me to play sports”

Meanwhile some mums also shared similar concerns to the OP.

“I don’t think it’s old fashioned. I think as a mother of both boys and girls we tend to worry about our girls a little more. I personally would worry about my girls with a male baby sitter and especially a teenage one as I know how teenage boys can be when their hormones kick in. I am not saying anything would ever happen just that I would not feel comfortable and could not enjoy my time out if I were worried. In saying that I wouldn’t allow anyone I don’t know personally to baby sit my kids period!”

Another said, “Its not sexist dude. I have three girls. Only guys I’d let watch my girls are my brothers. You have to be careful about men being around girls. I mean yes. Women hurt kids too but its much less likely. I’d have to meet the kid. Have parent meetings to make sure he is ok and watch him with my kids as a trial run to make sure he ok.”

“I wouldn’t even consider having a teenage boy watch my children let alone little girls. No way.”

” ah hell no sorry i would not be letting no teenager boy or girl look after my kids. Choose very wisely & follow your gut instincts, it’s a crazy world out there & you need to be very careful when it comes to leaving your kids with strangers!!!”

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A discussion on reddit recently attracted some attention after reddit user Yuioir asked, “Is it odd to have a teenage guy babysitting my kids?”

“My friend told me that she’d never hire a male, especially a teen, to babysit, because it’s too risky and dangerous,” she wrote. “Several of my other friends agreed with her, saying that they only hired women to babysit their children. Is that the general consensus on male babysitters? Why does it seem that being teen boy automatically makes you dangerous to kids? Shouldn’t we judge people based on their characters, not their age or gender?”

Is it odd to have a teenage guy babysitting my kids? from r/Parenting

When single mum of two Kat Abianac shared her excitement at hiring a “Manny” for her son, some of her friends were actually pretty bit quick to judge her motives. He was perfect for her young son and introduced him to so many great new opportunities.

Share your thoughts below.


  • I’d have to get to know them pretty well. It wouldn’t matter if they were male or female, the issue would be if they were responsible.

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  • I agree with not letting any teenage boy OR girl watch my kids. I’ve heard bad stories of both boys and girls. I’d have to really know and trust someone if I were to let’s them mind my kids!

    There can definitely be some lovely boys out there who would be just great baby sitters.

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  • I would only ever have someone babysit my children that I knew well and probably knew their family too. In that case it didn’t matter if it was male or female

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  • I wouldn’t have a problem if I knew the boy or had friends that know him well.

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  • If I knew them and/or they were highly recommended I definitely would. If this topic was about not trusting a girl comments would be very different. Girls can be bad too

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  • If I met them first and get recommendations I probably would. My 17 year old son I would allow to babysit. He’s great with kids and lets them know the boundaries if they’ve gone too far (but in a nice way of letting them know) but he is a teenager so I reckon he would think it wasn’t cool to baby sit lol

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  • Young guys can be so good with kids, and it may just give them a lesson in bagging it.

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  • Another post ripped from Reddit.

    I wouldnt have any problems with a male babysitter though as long as I knew them or had references same as a female.

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  • I’m sorry but I would say no! And yes it may be sexist but lets face it – how many female abusers have you heard of? This is coming from a woman who was repeatedly abused as a young child by a teenage boy. It’s really just not worth the risk.

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  • I have to honesty say this question made me seriously stop and think. I haven’t previously and I don’t know if I would if I didn’t know them personally. But then I think that regardless of gender

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  • My kid’s first babysitter was a friend’s son, he was awesome, I even made sure to pay him with his first $100 note (two full days babysitting!)

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  • I would not hesitate to ask a boy to babysit if he had previous experience just the same as using a girl, if they had the maturity to know what to do in an emergency & caring for kids before. In families with older sons they would learn to look after their younger siblings just the same as how girls do. I got my oldest son to care for his younger brother when he was 15 for a few hours on weekends so I could have a social life because being a single mum I had no one else to ask. He was mature enough to know what to do if something went wrong & would ring me if there was a problem. No sure what harm a boy could do to your kids that a girl can’t do & that way of thinking is very sexist, boys have looked after younger siblings & their friends since humans first populated this world.

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  • Although each to their own in making this decision, I think one would have to choose according to what they know of the boy (or girl) and how they relate to kids, whether they are responsible and caring. I know my teenage son would not hurt a fly, although he may be a bit too vague to look after young kids lol.

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  • We’ve never hired a babysitter so I think ‘each to their own’ on this one. If it was someone that the family knew and was friendly with?


    • We have never hired a babysitter either – never on our agenda and would never have to choose.

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  • why not? If he has recommendations he must be doing something right. Meet him the first time and then make a judgement. Very sexist not to consider because he’s a boy.

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