A concerned mum has asked whether sharing your child’s perfect report online is insensitive to other families whose child may be finding school a struggle.

A mum has taken to Mumsnet to ask if she is being unreasonable to think that parents who share their children’s reports online are being insensitive.The mum says that another mother from her son’s class wasted no time in sharing pictures of her daughter’s full report on social media which highlighted her extensive achievements and academic success.

Proud or Smug?

The photos of the report were accompanied by a caption that the mum says made her feel uneasy.

“A mum from my son’s class has posted pictures of the full report on Facebook bragging about her child’s amazing abilities and essentially how she is such a good parent to have a child exceeding expectations for her age,” she wrote in the forum.

“I get it, she’s proud, but it’s a kick in the teeth for all the other parents in the class whose children have struggled.”

The mum went on to say that she has no issue with parents being proud of their children but questioned the need to share their feelings in such a public way.

A Complete Overreaction

Comments on the mums post said that sharing your child’s success on Facebook is rarely intended to make others feel inferior.

“I disagree that it’s a kick in the teeth for other children,” one said. “The child’s achievement is theirs alone, not something to mock other children with.”

“The idea that a parent should not show pride for fear of upsetting someone else is ridiculous,” wrote another. “I don’t agree with posting the actual report…but mum can be proud, irrespective of how the other kids have done.”

While we think every parents is entitled to share their excitement and be proud when their child achieves, we can’t really see the need to share the actual results in such a public way. Not only is it creating an environment of comparison, but it puts huge pressure on that child to continue to achieve in the future! Perhaps those photos are best saved for sharing in the family Whatsapp group…

Would you share photos of your child’s report online? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.

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  • i wouldn’t share his results online for sure… could go upto grandparents maximum!

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  • Bit show offie!
    And no one is perfect so when a parent over promotes their child but you happen to see the same child when they pick their booger’s or kick a child it’s kinda eye rolling!

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  • no way!!!!

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  • Definitely not and this is just being smug.

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  • No !!!!! From what I have seen reports are not always accurate. A teacher can write glowing reports for each subject saying how good a pupil’s results are yet give low grades. Either the grades or the comments about the child’s high achievements and marks allocated during the 1/2 year were incorrect.
    I very much doubt your child wants his or her results put on social media at all. Think of your child’s feelings and whether he / she would give consent for you to do so.

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  • I would put as little as possible on social media if I were on it – but I’m not and not going to be either.

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  • I really think there is too much oversharing on FB and social media these days.

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  • Personally, no and I wish everyone would stop sharing everything about their lives – it’s all to much.

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  • My son isn’t at the age of school yet, but if you are proud of them, then why not? Often it’s not bragging, but allowing family and friends who you dont see often know how well your child id doing at school. If they have worked hard and applied them selves and in return gotten good results, then why not?

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  • I don’t have a problem with it but wouldn’t it either put more pressure on the child to keep their grades up or open them up to bullying from others in their class for being a show off or being called teachers pet. Just being proud of them and not their grades is the best way to go

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  • I have never and would never consider putting my child’s academic performances online. I have many friends that share ‘Student of the Week’ certificates – everyone in a class gets these now so I gloss over these. I have a friend that shared all her daughter’s exam or test results. Again, I gloss. It makes me uncomfortable. Would you have that same conversation with your friend in person? Often not. So I’m not a fan and would never do it myself.

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  • I think it’s OK to say something general like how the child did very well in their exams and that the parent is very proud of the achievements, but don’t need to post actual results. We should strive to be supportive of other people’s achievements even if your child might not have done as well. It can be hard to, but we’re all part of a village that should try to be supportive of one another.

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  • I wouldn’t put the results up. I may say something along the lines of “I am so proud of my child for working hard and achieving amazing academic results.” In every aspect of life that you are achieving, others are not going to be. That doesn’t mean that you should not celebrate your hard work and success. There are always going to be things that you are good at and things that you are not so good at, and that is okay.

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  • I don’t see a problem with being proud of your child’s achievements. If you don’t want to feel ‘inferior’ you don’t have to read the post or follow that person. Simple. People should be able to have what they want on their own Facebook account provided it fits within Facebook’s guidelines.

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  • I think it is important to be proud of your children’s accomplishments – but they need to know that you are proud of it. I think posting on social media is probably bragging!

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